Frequently asked questions about sobriety for newcomers

Below is a list of common questions that newcomers to the community ask. This FAQ is a Wiki and is maintained by our long term community members. Anyone of Trust level 3 and higher can edit and contribute to this.

Advice for the newcomer

Advice for the Newcomer and Constant Relapser

(Different Aspects of Recovery)

Resources for our recovery

(What was anyone’s experience in the first month of sobriety?)

(Tips for getting and staying sober)

(Good riddance to hangovers! (And other things I don't miss))

(What has been your greatest ally in quitting?)

(Podcast Reccommendations?)

Hobbies and Interests

Tips for handling cravings

(Leigh's Guide to Crush Cravings: Part.1)

(Tips on how to manage cravings)

What about moderation?

(How often did u try moderation before realising it wasn't working? (if that is ur situation))

(Abstinance Vs. Moderation)

(Newbie/ drinking in moderation?)

PAWS / Withdrawals from alcohol

(PAWS (post-acute-withdrawal-symptoms) what are your stories or experiences)

Posting under the influence

Posting under the influence info

Where do I find a sponsor?

How to get a sponsor

Does AA work?

To A.A. or not to A.A:

What are some good alternatives to AA?

Staying sober without AA

Does anyone else feel that they don’t need AA?:

Should I reset my timer?
Generally speaking, if you are asking this question, then the answer is ‘yes’. There are some very edge-case scenarios where you don’t have to reset, like when you accidentally swallowed some mouthwash. If your goal was to stop drinking/using, and you did intentionally drink/use then you should reset. Be completely honest with yourself. There’s no need for shame here. Relapses are actually a very common and normal part of the recovery process and the important thing is that you learn from them.

How do I know I’m an alcoholic?

(What makes an alcoholic, an alcoholic?):

(Let's to fill the points together! 😉)

I had a dream about relapsing. Is it normal?

(Relapse dream last night)

Should I go to the party, wedding, holiday get together? And what about drink after work?

(Advice for holidays, parties, weddings, etc)

("Let's grab drinks")

First sober party :see_no_evil:

(Looking for Wedding Tips)

Am I ready for a relationship?
(I dont know if ill be able to find a relationship again)

What are common scenarios or reasons for relapsing?
Relapses are usually attributed to certain ‘triggers’: events or scenarios that cause you to relapse. These triggers are different for every person, but there are a few common triggers. Here are a few examples:

  • Going to a social event before you’re ready (e.g. a birthday party after one week of sobriety)
  • Having extra money to spend (payday just came and you have money to burn)
  • Spending too much time with your old drinking/using buddies
  • Boredom

There are many more reasons, and it’s advised that you find and avoid your triggers. Have a look at the relapses category to see posts about people who’ve relapsed in the past.

Can I drink non-alcoholic beer?

(Dealcoholized wine)

(Non alcohol beer)

Alcohol free beer - yes or no?

My partner still drinks

(Does your partner still drink? Some threads you may find helpful)

(How can I stay sober when I live with someone who drinks?)

(Is it difficult to stay sober if your partner drinks at home?)

First time, day one
Alternitive approaches to sobriety- other than AA
Any advice to new comer?
Advice for newby
Drinking Dreams?
I need to stop today
Hello! Newbie here!
2nd day, want to drink tonight
Alcohol and the other half
I want to stop but I'm scared
In search of an accountability partner
Day 2 after my relapse this past weekend
Helpful info for newbies
Advice would be appreciated
Trying to stay clean but I'm getting worried
Well here it is
Have a partner who drinks? Some reading for you
Omg how many times to l have to reset
Quitting alcoholism
I keep dreaming I relapsed
Should I reset my tracker?
5 days easy, Now struggling
First four days in over a year and a half
Wife moved out
Starting Week 2. Never been here before
How? How on earth do you get out of it? Please help me
I fucked up tonight
New day new start
Looking for support real talk not cliches
Need accountability so I'm posting
How are you all navigating recovery at this time
Help & Tips: Trying to stay sober
Checking in daily to maintain focus #16
Checking in daily to maintain focus #16
Once a Trainwreck...Always a....? This is my Life
Recovery from drink
Here i go, again
I am in early recovery and i need advices. Please help
Hi. Please give me some pointers. 2 days sober
Checking in daily to maintain focus #15
Building my toolbox
Checking in daily to maintain focus #15
New to this sober app
New here... Day 1
Today Is my first day sober
Hi everyone 75
20 days so proud!
Wondering if Ill ever get long sobriety :(
Checking in daily to maintain focus #8
It's got to be done
AA meetings and life
Please give me some support - day 1 :’(
I'm new here. What's your experience from this community?
Newby wants to be sober
When the cravings kick in
2020 Changes
New for 2020? Start here!
Another attempt after xmas 😫
Ideas to keep occupied
First post. Glad I found the group!
9 days free from booze, what now?!
New and day one sober any tips?
Questions about early sobriety? Here you can find some answers!
FORUM advice for newbies (and maybe the not so new)
New on here. Having a hard time quitting on my own
Day 2 🤪 and I'm struggling
Need support again
Longing for Soberity
Can you help me?

Bumping for all the new forum members…lots of helpful threads to keep you busy reading and informed. :heart: