I’m over the 3 weeks nearly at 4 weeks. The urge to drink is unbearable. I feel so overwhelmed and feel like this will never go away. I was sure by now I would be feeling more energetic and have less cravings. I know I am doing better than when I was drinking but I’m starting to wonder what’s the point. Life is so challenging and how will I ever get through it all without drinking. . The only good so far is the clean breath, good mornings and not feeling sick. My mood is still very bad and I’m tired.
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I’m sorry you’re struggling with that. hugs
It’s hard. There’s no denying that, that’s for sure.
Try and think about how horrible things become by drinking. The sickness. The lack of energy and motivation. The horrible mental health and anxiety.
If you drink now you’ll feel better only for a moment in the grand scheme of things and then you’ll feel even worse. Much worse than a craving.
You can make it through this craving. It will pass 🩷
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HALT H.ungry A.ngry L.onely T.ired
Please have something to eat, take a walk around the block and be kind to yourself.
You are not alone. Here comes:
- a smile especially for you
- hugs galore to keep you grounded
- and a catpic to destract your cravings. He is the king of mischief!
NO you don’t pick up, you have a meal, take a shower and off to bed. Give yourself a rest. You sound like you need it. Tomorrow is another day.
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Great advice @erntedank . Please do these things @LadyHatt . We’ve all been here and we’ve all had to get ourselves through these feeling’s 
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I’m sorry things are feeling overwhelming and your struggling. Early sobriety is difficult sometimes but it does get easier and the energy levels return. Remember why you quitting in the first place and all the negative stuff drinking causes you. Play the tape all the way through. All you have to do is get through today without a drink. Things will come together for you if you stay on this path and stay sober. Stay busy with your recovery even if you don’t feel like it. Keep reaching out and stay connected with other people in recovery. Your not alone.
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It’s an hourly battle 7 days a week. Hopefully tomorrow will be better. I’ll have to plan very hard to keep myself away from the off licence on Saturday. I would down a bottle of wine in 5 mins the way I feel, If I was drinking and being in the mood I am in now I would be in my car, music blaring on the way back from the off licence. I would have drank a can of strong cider in the car on the way home, I would have 2 bottles of wine in the bag and drink one more can of cider in the car before I get inside hiding the evidence in the recycling bin. Then after my 2 wine I usually would sneak wine from my husband’s bottle and maybe have a whiskey. I’m getting hungover even writing this. But I still miss it. I’m safe tonight, gone to bed now
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Dont know if you have tried a meeting there are plenty of support programs out there. Your brain is still in drink mode to have to divert your mindset like go for long walks or join a gym drink plenty of water remember you only got today and once you get into a good balance then each day will get easier and take it from this old fart it does! Happy thoughts wish u well
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Just a little snippet of what you have previously written, this will be waiting for you again if you pick up a drink and it gets worse each time.
Well done for reaching out, have you tried getting onto a zoom meeting or listening to a podcast etc, anything to push through this feeling 
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Oh gawd I was so sick. I really was. TKS for that, I need to keep reminding myself. My brain is the devil
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I know you feel defeated and disheartened, but you still showed up for yourself and made it to bed safely.
Even if you don’t feel it right now, you’re a badass! 
Get some rest and do it again tomorrow. 
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You’re welcome, we are fast forgetters when the voice starts.
I also see you loved the podcast recovery elevator, so much great access to content in our phones now that so many couldn’t access before.
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I’m listening to it now. His explanations about alcoholism are excellent and then I really relate to people interviewed and feel normal. I’ve been falling asleep to this podcast every night.
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the road to recovery is different for everyone – no set time frame on when we will see what results. The one good thing to know is that every day without a drink – You are healing and getting better.
Each time we relapse, the harder it is to bounce back to health and on the sober track.
Life is shitty sometimes and can be challenging but we don’t need the drink to work through the bull shit. You are strong - look at you with 3+ weeks – that is impressive and now you are farther from day 1. Do not let your urges drag you back.
Keep yourself busy and mentally occupied with something (i used to watch mindless tv and play games on phone or knit) – he urges do not last – do not let your mind entertain them.
Sending strength my friend
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I appreciate your honest share. It’s clear that you’re assigning an enormous amount of value on alcohol. I’m reminded all too well of how my brainwashed beliefs led me back to relapse. Believing that my DOC was a good stress reliever and that it added fun to my life. It was a lie. And I consider this brainwashing a far greater problem than my relapsing. Believing that I was making a sacrifice by choosing to quit, Allen Carr would identify my attempt as a willpower method.
Have you read Allen Carr’s Easy Way to Control Alcohol
Or Annie Grace’s This Naked Mind?
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I’m sorry you’re struggling right now, it does get better. Remind yourself why you stopped in the first place. The consequences of drinking are not worth it. We’re here for you 
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A craving will not kill you…drinking eventually will. Keel being sober, it gets really good!
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Congrats on over three weeks! I’m right at 31 days and felt the same around my three week mark. I tried to really focus on the way I felt when I woke up and just being grateful that I didn’t feel like a burden from the night before after drinking.
Keep focusing on the positives, and keep at the process. Avoiding the first drink is the key to avoiding the rest of them!
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Hey @LadyHatt im sorry the cravings are haunting you. I had to put some work into my recovery and dig for my reasons. I had tools like a journal, this community, and aa helped me do alot of self reflection. Knowledge is power. Granted all the knowledge in the world doesnt help if you dont have support and reasons to pull you thru.
Good for you for reaching out. I hope you made it to the otherside of the craving and lived a sober 24
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