Hi Jess I’ve literally just joined up here. I’m Scott from Scotland, I have the very same feelings, every morning when I wake up I say ok that’s it but as soon as it gets to 5pm my mind wanders to beer/wine and it just keeps going and going… Today I’m determined not to have a drink tonight (9.19am here) but this is the easy time.
Personally I think this group can help me and you alike.
First part of the road to success is recognising there’s a problem
The past 18months hasn’t been easy so don’t be too hard on yourself
Welcome, you have taken the most important step " We admitted we were powerless over alcohol and that our lives had become unmanageable.”
No need to be embarrassed at AA, you are in good company with fellow alcoholics. When I first went I decided that awkward feeling there was no where near as bad as the days of hiding or guilt after my drinking. Stick around here daily as well, everyone here is a friend
I remember how often I told myself, tomorrow or tonight I won’t drink. Still, after work I was finding myself heading to the next supermarket and buying wine. Every single day. For 1.5 years or so. Before that time I was still able to bargain with me, so only every other day, small bottles of wine. I was unable to not go to the supermarket and buy this f*** poison. I was lucky I had 90 days, on a pink cloud, nothing could stop me as being a non-drinker was so easy. Then I moved to another city, new job, no friends, picked up again, struggled 6 months or so and then one night found myself kneeling on the floor and asking someone to just survive Sunday, one day without drinking.
I have not much of advice but to go to a meeting, listening to people who are sober, read here. Surround yourself with sober people or non-drinker. We all have been there and so many here show that it is possible.
My obsessive over thinking, non-sleeping cycle became step by step better without booze.
All my family and friends aren’t big drinkers so I don’t surround myself with drinkers. I drink alone . It’s all me .I’m the only drinker and cigarette smokers. No one pressures me etc… it’s all me. I do this all to myself that I can’t even mentally or emotionally stop I hate myself daily that I keep giving in to the devil. I have read books and YouTube videos etc that say alcohol is the devil don’t give in and yet I still do. I wish I had a partner who could tell me no Jessica you don’t need to drink etc etc. I need to be told.
I was almost always drinking alone. I live alone. And hid most of my heavy drinking and my misery. You are here. That is a first step. Hitting an online meeting might help, its anonymous as can be. No need to talk, to show your face. Baby steps. Commit yourself to start. Today is a good day. One minute at a time when one day is too long.
When I felt the most down in my relationship I wanted to stop drinking. It was half-hearted. He supported me as long as I didn’t say, well fuck it, why not. Okay, one glass. A partner is not always the cure to everything, in fact, I guess never. You can do it. I couldn’t sleep through due to my drinking and over thinking. So I added sleeping pills to the equation. When I quit everything altogether, I started to sleep better.
" You all probably havent experienced someone like me before I’m alot to deal with…sorry in advance "
I had to chuckle at this, not at you but at the comment. I will put every cent and possession I have on the fact that we have…ourselves.
This is why you should get to a meeting, you will hear stories in the rooms that will help you see that you are most definitely not a lot to deal with to other addicts.
The sleep u get after drinking is very inferior to natural sleep, why not watch some videos to learn about it after the kids are asleep? U can also join online aa meetings, keep camera off, just initials as a name. I didn’t want to believe I was bad enough for aa, and my first few meetings I didn’t understand how listening to others would help ME. But now listening helps remind me of the bad things in the past and why I quit, and remind me of the good things now and why I keep trying.
Hey Jess, I’ve just read through this trail and I can relate so hard, my solo drinking is the problem and I’m not ready to talk about it face to face to a group of people when I’ve only just told my best friend. If you want a small chat group I’ve set up a group on the app “Quit Drinking”, I use this App for my journal and that one for the chat room, they compliment each other well. It also has a running tab of how much money you’re saving daily!
Hi Jess I’m new on here too and like you don’t want to go to meetings, I just don’t think AA is for me. I’ve also used drink to help me sleep and often relapsed from sober periods because I couldn’t sleep when sober and missed it. Then I eventually got to 3 months sober and noticed ‘hey I’ve been sleeping better’. Unfortunately I’m on here because I’ve relapsed again. I feel much better when I don’t drink, on day 3 now and feeling determined. Let’s do this together.
Hi there and welcome! Sounds like your drinking happens at a very specific time of the day. I would get on some zoom meetings online with your camera off since you are apprehensive about in person meetings. Replace the alcohol with everything sobriety related like quit lit, sober podcasts, sobriety zoom meetings, then go to bed. You can do this.
Hi there. I have only been sober 14 days now and it’s hard but you cannot give up. I almost did a few times but I keep telling myself that I don’t want to drink anymore and I feel better about myself without it. This group has been a great help to me. I don’t write every day but I do read a lot of the posts on here. It’s a great place. Welcome and don’t give up. We are all here for each other. I have been having trouble sleeping, had brain fog and headaches but I keep trying to push through it. I will not only be better for myself but for my family as well. This is something that helps me say no to alcohol. I hope you find rest soon and keep checking in here. One day, one minute, one second and one step at a time.
Hey there! I am married to a man who drinks. We have always drank together. It is how we met and bonded. I have felt I have a problem for years and have mentioned it to him but he will never validate. For years I have been secretly dying for him to sit me down and tell me I am an alcoholic. I felt like his identification of my problem would be a catalyst for me to take it seriously and quit. Slowly I realized that day would never come and that I was continuing to hurt myself because I was waiting on someone else to help fix me.
I recognize our situations are not the same but I’m telling you this story because I realized that no one can quit for me. No one is responsible for my drinking OR my sobriety. It is my choice. My decision. My will and my power. It’s not about other people. It’s about me and my health and well being.
It is scary to think about what others will say/do when you change or admit to a problem or go to a meeting. But I can say with honesty that every time people have surprised me for the better and been totally supportive. People genuinely want to help each other. People are inspired by others who take steps to better them selves … in any way.
You CAN do this. It is hard but it is doable. And ultimately it is your choice. I come here every single day and it has proven to be really helpful for me to read what others say and get advice when needed.
I can relate to this! I am a lone wolf most the time when I drink. Many people I surround myself with don’t drink aside from a few friends and family members. I always wondered why I wanted to drink when I was alone. I still haven’t figured it out. With the support of people around me, and the motivation to not want to let most importantly myself down, I’ve managed to have 12 days. Its a start. You can do it too! You will start to see a different light in the world! I am very newly sober but already feel so many benefits.
honesty that every time people have surprised me for the better and been totally supportive. People genuinely want to help each other. People are inspired by others who take steps to better them selves … in any way.