I want to stop bitching about everything. I even cover this characteristic in therapy. I feel I just need to vent.
My circle of people in my life (peeps) are my husband and his daughter. If you know me well you know I love to cook and bake. I am pretty good at it. But like in all things one needs the proper tools for the job. In the past few weeks I found my husband while babysitting daughters dogs in her new house used my two mixing bowls for food and water. Have they been returned? No! In past few days while husband working I have found two of my good and sturdy measuring cups. 1 in the dry dog food bag and 1 in the bird seed bag.
I haven’t said anything, My mixing bowls had lids and everytime I see them I remember where the bowls are.
These two people so much the same have no idea how this bothers me.
I am trying so hard to save this marriage I have damaged with my drinking. I could replace these items but me purchasing the items will start another conflict.
So I smile and am so glad I have donated my items to our pets.
Letting go of things feels great, and I’m glad you were able to here. However, I also think it’s important to communicate with the people we love if something is bothering us, like them not respecting our belongings. Of course you have to pick your battles but if it’s truly bothering you it’s worth talking about. Lotta small things can turn into one big thing over time.
My husband was using my measuring cups for pool chemicals and that was not good. Mixing food stuff with chemicals, no bueno.
So we discussed and we decided to acquire an additional set of measuring equipment that was solely for baking. These can often be found at thrift shops. And I would be quite vocal if my prized mixing bowls (I am also a baker) were feeding the cats. They are for bread and sweets.
Totally up to you how you proceed. But it is okay to have nice things.
Thank you. Thrift store great idea. Recovering from hip surgery but as soon as I am out and shopping I know just where to go. Thinking maybe can trade daughter for my good ones🤗. Easy enough to replace measuring cups and dishwasher is a master to remove all residue of bitching thoughts. Ha
Yeah, TMAC said it well. I don’t think it’s much to ask that your nice things meant for making people food not be used to feed the dogs.
It’s wise of you too though to first take that big step back for a breath before approaching it. Get our own head screwed on straight, understand why we’re upset, then find a tactful way to broach the subject. Lest we say things we might regret. Understand where we’re coming from.
As you said, you like to prepare food for them. That’s a kindness made more difficult when cooking supplies are taken for other things. Hopefully he’d understand that, and maybe didn’t think much of it in the moment.
Sharing our lives and homes surely comes with… challenges. I envy you have a home and meal to share with others, for what it’s worth. That’s a blessing! Just a messy one.
I think you should mention it, they do not seem to know how much it affected you, they can’t read minds. Communication is a great thing and it can prevent it happening again.
This sounds frustrating and would have me upset too.
Have you talked to either of them? I know sometimes the simplest things that we think are so in your face are really not and the other person has no clue as to what we are thinking or feeling.
Today husband mixing hummingbird food and looking for a measuring cup. I told him it was in dog food bag. He got out cleaned and used. I am sure he thinks I put it in there. On the scope of reality this whole situation is so very unimportant.
I am accused constantly of not caring about my living environment because of things he feels important that are not done. I am almost 61 years old and can’t seem to find anyway to find common ground on how and when things should be done. Told too many times HIS WAY OR HIWAY
Not healing according to schedule. Thigh pain keeping me from putting weight on it. I should be able to be getting around better but can’t. Husband fed up with me sitting and continues to threaten divorce. Thanks for caring.
I’m sorry it’s been a slow healing process. Just got to give it time and not overdue it. Also sorry about the environment you’re in and the added stress.
