What helped me was to have at least one sobriety specific action per day that took 2 or so hours, including travel time. I needed that physical action to counteract the years of inertia that, left unchecked, would have me tending back to thinking about drinking. I went to an alcohol counselor, to AA meetings, and eventually to an outpatient program for a few months. In the first month, I also used Antabuse. There are other medications as well.
Have you checked out these ideas? Having an open mind and being willing to try just about anything was key for me.