Like grief it doesn’t go away, it becomes the new normal 
It makes sense
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Bless you Roxanne i hope the therapist can help you with that grief, il be rooting for u 
positive new normals are the best though …like sobriety xx
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Im so glad youve felt able and comfortable enough here to express yourself…thats soooo important…shit needs to come out
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New chapter of new normals 
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Amen to that lovely lady 
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“A successful person begins with two beliefs: the future can be better than the present, and I have the power to make it so.” - Sober Time’s message for July 24, 2023.
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absolutely!!
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How are you going Roxanne?
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21 days sober 
I am coming out of a depression lil fog. Nothing sounds fun, I don’t wanna do shit, I want to lay in bed and cry and sleep. But, I’m gonna go to the gym. And made plans with another momma this evening to get the kids for movies, pizza, and pool. She in the past suffered really heavily from depression so she’s assured me to come as I am. How are you?? Also, in contact with my ex and I know it may be codependency but it’s getting me by just those few texts a day.
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21 days is amazing well done you!! Youl come through it just keep plugging away, like the sound of the plans with your friend 
yes im ok thank you, just wanted to see how your doing as i was thinking of u
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Thank you, I’m here still going ODAAT 
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@rainy7 This is an old topic, but it really touched me, because I’m through something a little similar … I still haven’t been able to forgive myself, and it’s been years.
How are you doing?
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Hello 
everytime I read this I cry. It seemed the end was nowhere near and life was so painful. I’m almost 6 months sober now, got my family back, and learned to love myself. That was the hardest. Grieving my son who passed, grieving the childhood I never had, grieving the loss of alcohol and my drinking buddies. Lots of grieving and grace. I started traveling, lots of solo traveling and found the source of my drinking and threw it in the ocean lol (metaphorically). I’m just tired of hating myself. The first 8 weeks seemed impossible but I swear it all got easier. I worked out, ALOT. Changed my diet. I’m still agitated at times and smoke ciggs still 
but, I’m not self loathing anymore. I hope you give yourself some grace. Even if it doesn’t feel right we have to be kind to ourselves in order to heal.
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So grateful to see you doing well in your journey Roxanne. What a beautiful post and i am filled with hope reading it. Thank you!
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So good to read this Roxanne, im tearing up for sure 
so soooo proud of you xxxxx
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