You sound very determined which is great. This site certainly helps. I guess aloha is hawaii?
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Hawaii it is. I live in Paradise while fighting my internal nightmaresā¦ could be worse 
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You are doing great guys 
keep this up and belive you got this. Be the boss of your lifes 
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The boss of our pro football clubā¦ English football went to live on hawaii. Wow. Can only imagine. Incredible all linked through booze thousands of miles apart. Thanks @Cobaltchris for your encouragement. In 24 hours Iāll be a week down. Feel great. Got this sparkling vino without alcohol and itās amazing.
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Names Ru iam a recovering porn addict currently on 12 days clean and sober. Been watching porn for over 11 years an my addiction spiraled out of control in my college years. It got so bad that when i was with my first girlfriend after college too much damage had been done an i couldnt perform. I was super sad an in deep denial an 3 girls later then it kicked in something was very very wrong. My longest streak was 87 days but i caved in i have relapsed a few times but started nack upset that porn is controling my life an i want it to end now but it will take time an discipline to reach 130 days and beyond
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My name is Mel and Iām an alcoholic/drug addictā¦1 day sober. I was sober for 6 years and then relapsed and stayed āout thereā for 6 years. Iām tired of this lifestyle and am working to get my sober and happy life back. (There is nothing out there for me and itās not any fun when alcohol is involved.) One day at a time.
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So glad you are back. Im 20 days drink free.
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Thank you. Iām feeling irritable and discontent right now (like my skin is crawling) but I remember what a sober life has to offer. God, give me peace. This too shall pass.
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Greetings & Salutations! My Name Is Marcus. Luckily Getting Addicted To Things That most Other Ppl Get Addicted To Has Never been a problem for Meā¦ Except for One Thingā¦ Masturbationā¦ & I Know It May Not Seem As Bad as These Other Horrible Addictionsā¦ Butā¦ It Still Haunts Me Never The Less. I Have only gone Weeks Without It Before I Mess Up Again. Iām Hopingā¦ Pplā¦ having my Back so To Speak Would really increase My Chances Ofā¦ Notā¦ relapsing. I Promise I Will Be There For All Of You As Well. Thank You
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Sharing is helping another and yourself stay positive and be focused . In us all there is the hope .stay willing
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I am a cutter too! Iām 34 and have been doing it since I was 11. Iāve been clean and sober for almost 5 years. But, sadly I have cut to avoid a drink.
There are different thoughts on cutting. But I think the best way is to consider our motives for doing it. What triggers you? And what happened that led you to start? I ask myself those same questions. First it was attention, then it was coping with emotions I didnāt like to being āproudā of the scar driven by false pride.
I also make what I call the 5 point gratitude list. 5 things I can count on one hand that Iām grateful for.
And finally, the unmanagability of it is our remorse after the cut. The way we feel. The negative self talk we tell ourselves. We deserve better that. We are worth more than that. Just for today, WE donāt have to cut! Hope this helps.
Love you,
Domino
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Self harm is a type of addiction, I have a daughter that struggles with it also, as a mom it is very difficult to understand but as a recovering alcoholic I get it. One of the things that has helped us both is if you have the urge or thoughts, ask yourself if it is your addict mind or rational mind and ride it out, it will pass! We do this sometimes several times a day! Stay strong, and know that being a voice for others with similar struggles can be very helpful to them and you!
Hello! I am new to this. I have been struggling with alcohol for 15+years. I have taken several online questionnaires to see where I fall. Usually the answer I get is that there is potential to become an alcoholic. Well I feel if I am questioning it, then there is an issue. My husband and I both like to drink at home after work. We both agree that we need to cut it out but we have to do it together. It needs to be out of the house and I think weāre both afraid to admit that we have to do this. Hoping for a cleaner year. Thanks for listening.
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My nameās Shyane Iām 19. Iām 6 months clean and sober. Iām a herion addict. I got introduced it when I was 16, by a boyfriend. I tried it one time and fell in love. Before this I smoked week like one time but nothing else. I went straight to snorting herion. Didnāt feel it anymore, a year later I started shooting it thatās when my life escalated. Everything got bad I started losing relationships and myself. I ended up getting in trouble by the law. Being put on Probation and thrown in jail do a little bit made me realize I donāt wanna live this life anymore.
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Hi everyone, Iāve literally just joined this morning. Iām from Scotland. Iām still trying to figure out whether or not I have an issue with alcohol. I donāt feel the need to drink all the time but when I do, I sometimes donāt know when to stop and then I canāt remember certains things. I end up messaging/calling people and canāt remember doing so. I have recently been diagnosed with depression and Iāve had anxiety for 12 years. Iām not good at sharing things so everything seems to come out when I drink. Iāve said nasty things when I drink. Things Iād never normally say. The first time I remember having an issue was when my nana died 3 years ago. I feel like something snapped in me and I just blocked it out as it was the most traumatic experience Iāve ever been through. So I feel like my blocked emotions are then triggered by alcohol. Hope that makes sense.
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@zissoudoll Welcome! Weāre a supportive community. Ultimately, youāll have to decide if you think you have a problem. Have you ever been to an AA meeting or tried any other sober resource? This might help with the answers youāre seeking.
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Thank you. I have been thinking of going to an AA meeting. I think itās something worth doing. Iāve spent the last 2 years in a kind of toxic relationship and the last few months has been the worst. I think I was full of anger towards this person but I hid it. Iād drink cos I was unhappy and then my anger would come out verbally. Iāve only just recently cut ties with this person and I feel like a weight has been lifted and donāt feel the same way when drinking.
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Hello Everyone!
My name is Ellie, from Northern California and Iām an addict. Before alcohol and weed, it was meth at the age of 12 and it pretty much went down hill from there. Was going to raves at the age of 15 and nightclubs at the age of 16. Never was really much into drinking, but drinking always lead me to the drugs, (to this day, thinking about taking a shot makes me gag lol). My problem didnāt get bad until about 4 months ago. First sign I was an addict: my therapist asked me how I felt about not smoking weed anymore and I had a panic attack. Second sign: was looking forward to going home and doing coke and whatever drugs I can get my hands on. If anything got in the way, I either had an anxiety attack, or was extremely irritable. That realization hit me like a ton of bricks!
So Ive been going to Marijuana and Cocaine Anonymous meetings for the past 2 months and it has been awesome! It really is amazing hearing everyoneās life stories and being able to relate in so many waysā¦just like this site! I have a sponsor who I love and also have a great support team in the meetings. Meditation is also a big key in helping with my panic/anxiety attacks.
2 months and 6 days and feeling great!! And what I like to tell my self every morningā¦I GOT THIS! Oh and also, keep those A.N.T.s out of my head!! (Automatic Negative Thoughts)
Thank you to everyone who has introduced themselves. Reaching out and admitting that you have a problem is the first step! No matter how many days sober we all have, what life story/experience we haveā¦we are all here for the same purpose 
Thanks guys!!
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My name is Matt. Iām an alcoholic. Have been for almost 10 years. I have tried to get sober so many times, slow down, take it easy. No matter what, once I have a drink, I canāt stop. Itās destroyed past jobs, friendships, and relationships. I got a duo when I was 20. Iām now 32. In a relationship that has almost been destroyed several times by alcohol. This past no day night I hit my breaking point. I want to get well, be better, and focus on what matters. The people I love.
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