Im a black and white guy if you come on here and complain about this site then im going to defend it . and i do understand this illness and how it affects people so ill say no more and i always wish people well and thats what im saying to you I WISH YOU WELL hope you find the answers your looking for
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How do you know what others know ?
What others know, depends on what they read. And communication has two distortions : on the listeners site, but also on speakers site…
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Tracking Warrior, I want to be like you when I grow up
I did offer a link, to a post I wrote that compiles lots of helpful info for people who are new to the forum and maybe finding it hard to fit in and so people can easily find some excellent resources for recovery. As well as an explanation of why some threads are busier than others. That is my way of offering support. I hope it is useful to you, but if not then I hope you find what you are looking for 
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Ma’am, I did, but it took me to post in another topic to get that attention, otherwise I would have 1 reply just as the girl that posted, just as the guy that been 7 days clean🤷♂️
I appreciate that… this is the kind of helpful person I’m talking about 
I learned so much here, that’s why I’m still here! I hope it can help you as much as it’s helped me 
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I’ll consider that a compliment 
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To my understanding, that’s the most respectful way to address a female👍
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Here mate you’ve had 1hour read time since March 8th. You only get out what you put in. Your venting at the wrong people. Have a look inside and start putting it right.
Come on here and be an active part of this community contributing and reap the rewards. We are all responsible for helping ourselves and helping others.
You have nothing to lose by giving it a go. Wishing you well.
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True.
What makes you assume I’m female ? 
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Another voice of encouragement right here🤦♂️
Sure, I’ll follow your advice Warrior
Sorry about my ignorance, but your username gave me the impression that you were a female, now I googled what it means and I’m not sure now… I apologize if I was wrong
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What if instead of complaining that you don’t find support you just told what kind of support you need. Are you lonely? Angry? Not sure what to do next in your sobriety? You’ve got everyone’s attention now so let’s hear it.
Although we’re addicts, I can’t know what you personally need in a certain moment, not unless you tell me.
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All of the above
Meh you’re not wrong. A lot of this forum is only tangentially related to sobriety. But all those hobby threads and people posting about multiple years of sobriety are a result of the hard work people put in to get sober. Their reward is a life of freedom where they can talk about those types of things.
There’s plenty of support offered as well to those who ask for it. Generally speaking though, you’re unlikely to get a ton of support when you’re third topic on the forum is an indictment of the forum and the people on it.
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What you’ve done above is mainly insult people. You’re projecting your own pain onto others. It’s a sign that you haven’t taken ownership of your experience and your emotions.
You have a choice now: choose addiction, which is about not taking ownership of your emotions (in which case you’ll continue insulting people here); or choose health and sobriety, which is about taking responsibility and owning your life (which means you will stop being insulting and accusing people of hurting or avoiding you).
You, like all of us, are here for yourself. You cannot and should not be making the accusations you are making here, because those accusations, like your addiction, are how you avoid your responsibilities in life.
Do you know what you are responsible for in your life? Do you choose to take action on those responsibilities, or to avoid them?
What is your choice?
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Looks to me the only time you asked for support you had it and never answered back… i think like any program this website only work for you if you work it too…
I’d say start with that again and you’ll get plenty of ears without people judging you for judging their group support.
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Hey there…im sorry to hear that you don’t feel seen. I didn’t see your original post as I don’t get on here quite as much as I’d like, but what specifically is it that you’re having issues with in your sobriety? Would you like some resources? Are you having trouble with an upcoming event? Do you have questions about AA/SMART/RefugeRecovery or another recovery group? Do you want to vent about something in your life that is stressing you out? I think once I know more what you are struggling with in your sobriety, I can listen/respond better.
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Someone much wiser and much more sober told me one time. “It’s the share that counts, not those who read or respond to it”. With that being said this is a great site, and if you have a legitimate problem and need support, it will be here. Good luck to you.
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