Hi, day 23 sober.
Still having intrusive thoughts about having ‘just one drink’. I know and am well aware that this will not work for me and I’ll end up in that vicious circle again. These thoughts are with me pretty much all of the waking day.
Anyone have any tips I could use?
Have a great day you lovely lot 
Dont do it my friend, coz one its just the door for another-one and so on and at no time there will be one too many and find yourself in the , ive done that, and thats just the addiction playing games to your head.
At first you will fell like " see no harm done" but then the need for the second one will follow right after y after that there is no way back.
Think about your worst time while intoxicated, the people you caused so much pain while at it including yourself not to mention the money wasted and the next day bad headache.
That thought will go right away and after tye urges are gine, you will be proud of yourself and feel happier that you took the right path.
You have got accept that you can never have just one, i tell myself that it would just open the flood gates into oblivion, its hard but something you have to accept to maintain sobriety, you have no control over alcohol apart from that first drink
How are you getting sober and whats your overall plan?
If you have this thought forever eventually you will drink. I gabe in to this thought until eventually I eradicated the thought one drink would be a vacation. I came to this conclusion from many trials of this theory that just one would be suitable.
Knowing that just one would NEVER do for a guy like me made it a lot easier to enter into a recovery program fully defeated.
I wish I had some little mental game you can play that would help but I dont know of any. Fight for your sobriety!?
Wish you the best.
There was a time you didn’t consider this option. Always listen to this voice. Everything else is a lie.
Well done 
Is it just one?
See for me it is not one. Maybe the first night I would be able to have one drink and go to bed thinking that I really had a handle on this addiction thing. For sure since I can handle one, the next night I will try two. If I can stop at two I am probably not an addict.
Within a week I would be drinking every night usually to a black out. I can never just have one. I want all of them. But I can’t have all of them if I don’t have one.
Don’t do it. Don’t start back where you were when back then you wanted to be where you are today. Don’t restart the cycle.
You know thise thoughts you are having all day right now… imagine a day without them. How would you feel being so free? Imagine just being and enjoying life without being controlled by them thoughts. It will come. Fight on. You will get there.
For now… distract distract distract … and have treats like nice food. Maybe a little sugar too, alcolhol is full of the stuff it might take the edge off
I had trouble around day 21 too. I relapsed then it took me cycles of more relapsing till i finally cracked it. Its really crap going through it over and over again. … stay strong.
That is the only one that matters… that is the one that will take away all of your power, your control, your dignity. The price of that “one” is extraordinarily high… Say no to that one.
Everyday you are training your brain to dismiss those thoughts “I can have just one” They will become less frequent and eventually it will get dismissed so fast you barely notice it.
I had one… After 5 sober months in December.
One glass, then a bottle…
Next day 2.
Since this one glass I am struggling with chronic relapses for half an year.
Don’t choose this glass one…
It’s heavily dangerous!
Have you read any Allen Carr? When you do you land on this principle-
Never Question the Decision
the decision to quit, that is. It works for me and many others. When the thoughts come, I then think… I Don’t Drink. Period. You Don’t Drink.
Hope that’s something helpful to think about. 
If I have one… Then I end up doing cocaine off a strangers switchblade in a truck stop thinking about how I’m going to be late for my flight, only to remember that flight was a week ago.
Jokes aside, never worth it. You have a good start, just keep it going. Because the pain and suffering “just one” can lead to is not worth it.
I tell myself that it simply is not an option anymore, thats it full stop… if i crave it more than usual i try to work out why im craving it because theres usually a reason, once i find the reason then i work on that and its served me well so far, i have to find another way because drinking is off the table…finally after 9 months im starting to just not want it which is huge, if i and many others can do it, you can
I was sober for a year previously and thought I was good. I started with a couple glasses of bourbon a few days a week and before I knew it I was hooked again! That last iteration is what led me to where I am today, committed to sobriety and knowing I can’t ever have just one! To me a key to success is filling your time with something you enjoy doing that doesn’t involve drinking. Coaching sports uses so much of my time I don’t ever really have any moments where my mind is idle enough to want to drink between work and coaching. Drinking sucks out the ability to realize your full potential, there’s so much time in a day to do so many better things, wish you well on your journey!
For me when I think, just one won’t hurt I flip that to what good is one drink going to do? I’m an alcoholic, I don’t ever want just one-I wanted a buzz. One did nothing but make me want more. Plus, all the excuses I had for drinking were total BS when I honestly looked at them. Lastly, I played the tape through. Where is this one drink going to lead me? Nooooowhere good. I don’t think I’d have what it takes to stop again…If I pick up the first drink I’m honestly headed toward my grave. One drink is not worth that. Keep going and building your sober muscles my friend. Each time you say no and do something different, you are rewiring yourself to this new way of life. Just do whatver it takes to end your day sober today, one day at a time. You can do this!
Keep your thoughts occupied with positivity. When a thought of drinking enters your mind, direct your attention to something that will stop that thought. You truly have to train your brain to snip those thoughts in the bud, do not allow yourself to dwell on the thought of drinking. There will come a day when those thoughts rarely, if ever, cross your mind. That is when you’ll realize that you’re living a life that is happy, joyous and free.
It’s a horrible roller-coaster
You already did so much work. You realized the fallacy of that statement- just one. It’s a trap!!! And you reached out here. We all know that trap!!! Now you have to get yourself to a point where you realize that voice telling you to just have one is not your authentic voice. That is your addict voice. The authentic one is the one telling you you can’t have that one because that one brings RUIN. For me, my tricks are distraction- take a walk, read a book, take a bath, play a game, call a friend. I also regularly just yell at myself either inside or out loud if needed, reminding myself that just one has brought me MISERY, and how many times do I have to tell myself to JUST SAY NO. Whatever you do, do not ever listen to that voice. That voice is a jerk.
It is a very slippery slope. You can put on the breaks and get off that roller-coaster. We are right here with you.
Never Question the Decision to quit.- Allen Carr
Allen Carr’s Quit Drinking Without Willpower: Be a happy nondrinker (Allen Carr’s Easyway, 2) https://a.co/d/4aFsMoX
This is definitely a huge Milestone.
I will reach day 9 tonight and I still… 
Although I know that one WILL definitely hurt!