This is a really hard one for me as I have been so self-depreciating for most of my life I struggle to compliment myself.
I am proud that I am still here and being there for the kids. In the last three months my 8 1/2 year relationship ended. I had to move out of my home and I don’t see my kids as much. I have moved home twice in this time and despite all this I am working towards two holidays and buying a flat. It’s a huge amount in a short space of time and I am proud that I am hanging in there despite it all.
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This one is easy. Less screen time. It doesn’t make me happy it draws me in and I forget about self care. Time to put the phone and laptop down and be in the moment.
Edit: Why haven’t I set it yet? Because I’ve become so reliant on my phone for everything, keeping touch with friends who live far away, planning things, contacting solicitors and estate agents, keeping up to date with news. It is one of my biggest links with the outside world. That needs to change.
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I love ur response to this question 
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Thanks! In addition to my usual introspective self, I was also feeling sleep deprivation. 
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August 13
RUPI SELF-LOVE CARD PROMPT:
ONE THING I WISH MORE PEOPLE KNEW ABOUT ME IS _________.
I was having a hard time answering this one and took an extra day with it. I couldn’t think of anything interesting or worth knowing about me…
Ended up on a video chat reconnecting with an old friend yesterday and when we got to talking about how we don’t talk enough, my response to her ended up forming the answer to this question.
I wish more people knew how deeply I love — friends, family, & acquaintances all hold special places in my heart. Certain things they do, say, create, express, etc all fill my heart with a little piece of them. It’s a little piece of joy. Especially hearing friends’ voices and laughter instantly puts a smile on my face and makes me love them all the more. Even people who have wronged me I hold on to the love I feel for them and end up leaving behind any resentment.
It also applies to how deeply I love the natural world and the connection I feel to it — sitting outside watching plants sway on the breeze, bumblebees buzzing around the garden, a new sprout of green emerging from the earth, birds flying overhead, fruit ripening on the tree, deer standing in the fields at sunset, hummingbirds puffing up to shake off the rain, a long line of turkeys cautiously crossing through openings in the forest together or jumping around excitedly in the masses of raspberry canes, hearing loons across a quiet lake, wolves and coyotes calling out in the night, or the owl hooting in the dark. I could just keep going on and on I love it all so deeply.
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August 15
RUPI SELF-LOVE CARD PROMPT:
HOW WILL YOU SHOW UP FOR YOURSELF TODAY?
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Therapy x discussing all the hard things and working through why past trauma is leaving me feeling so unsafe in current situations where I am not in any actual danger.
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Self care in the form of food x making sure I eat enough, eat well, and don’t binge or obsess over food.
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This - writing - getting my thoughts out through journaling and working on self love
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Prioritizing settling down & grounding myself after therapy and relaxing so I can move into my work week tomorrow not holding on to things
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August 16
RUPI SELF-LOVE CARD PROMPT:
WHO IS SOMEONE YOU WOULD LIKE TO HELP OUT OF THEIR RUT?
There are a few people that come to mind but helping them would leave me with nothing. Ultimately I need to help myself out of my rut before I have the capacity to help others. I just need to take care of me first right now.
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When I read that my first thought was, “ME!” 
And I think I’m actually doing it.
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August 17
RUPI SELF-LOVE CARD PROMPT:
A TIME THAT I WAS UNDERESTIMATED, BUT CAME OUT ON TOP WAS ___________.
I couldn’t find an answer to this one today. Going to keep thinking on this one tomorrow and pop back if I have an answer to share.
Edited to include response:
I am realizing that if I have any doubt in myself I keep my goals and plans to myself to not allow the chance for others to doubt me or psych me out.
Wrote out a big long thing about past bike racing and eventually found something more recent to write about where I don’t know if I have necessarily come out on top yet. I’m being underestimated in my choosing to end my relationship, my decision is being constantly questioned. Everyone seems to think me in capable of doing things on my own. I’m being told to “find a man that will take care of me” “find another handyman” “find someone who will love you the way you want them to.” They don’t understand I’m not looking for that. I am only looking for myself and to be all of that for myself. I don’t need to cling to a relationship for care/nurturing/stability/love/safety/practicality or whatever reasons they come up with to underestimate me and fuel doubt. Maybe I have already come out on top just by fostering this self love, trusting myself, and getting to really know myself.
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October 23
RUPI SELF-LOVE CARD PROMPT:
WHAT IS SOMETHING NEW YOU RECENTLY DISCOVERED ABOUT YOURSELF THAT SURPRISED YOU?
How much of myself I shrunk to fit into my past relationships. It was always more obvious coming out of abusive relationships but I’m seeing it even in coming out of a “good” relationship. The little things that add up to me as a whole. The ways I cook like using less rosemary or cutting mushrooms up much smaller than I prefer out of habit for him that became my norm. The music that I stopped listening to, things that were nostalgic and joyful for me but he hated. Trying to keep books in pristine condition because he had judged the condition of my books when we started dating - the ones that I had read repeatedly in the mornings as if they were a bible and had become stained with coffee, highlighted, notated, filled with ticket stubs, pressed ferns and flowers, notecards of long contemplations in regards to the things I had read - I love going back to flip through my old books and seeing these things. I didn’t want him to judge me in his silent brief glances so I stopped singing, dancing, painting, meditating, doodling when he was around so that these progressively private things were almost lost towards the end. These are all parts of me I am discovering again.
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I tried to find your cards but didn’t find them.
I am glad you are popping in with them again 
I surprise myself with tiny things like yesterday when I was on the mat practising standing poses what my fellow students posted. And I didn’t get into ahhhh, ohhhh, uhhh judgemental talk about this and that. Because I was strongly connected to my favourite online yoga teacher voice and practice. Now, I am more open towards voices, ways of teaching, style, spiritual input or lack of it.
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I read ur post last night and wanted to comment on ur question today, hoping id be feeling better. But Im not in the greatest head space today to think about these things … BUT i wanted to thank u for posting them again! This is such a beautiful thread. Im grateful ur back on it again 
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Something new for me is my ability to be vulnerable with my husband.
I have always been a very independent person. In a maybe sick way, I was always proud of my independence and not needing anyone. But it also became a way to shut people out. To not get hurt. Bcuz if i relied on someone, and they didnt follow thru, it hurt me and made me feel like a fool for believeing them. I just stopped allowing people in.
The past week, for whatever reason, i began opening up with my hisband about my mental health and not feeling my best. I told him how i felt and what i was thinking. I dont usually do this. It felt good! I felt closer to him when he responded well to me and wasnt short. He even praised me for communicating better bcuz it let him know where i was at. It helped him understand why i was “off” instead of him trying to guess when i used to say “Im fine”. Im really going to work hard at keeping this up 
thanks again for restarting these! I wouldve never noticed this if it wasnt for this question
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Ohhh I love that Dana!! 
Thank you both @Butterflymoonwoman and @anon74766472 for joining me here and sharing. 
I had to take a break with the prompts for a bit while I was processing some stuff with my break up but I’m trying to get back in the habit again.
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Thats absolutely okay and im really glad thar u did take that time for u. How have u been? Hope all is well on ur end
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Things have been very messy and complicated. There’s been a lot of days the past few months where I was very far from being okay but it’s all starting to balance out. At least right now in this past week I can say I am doing well. And I’m just so stinking grateful to have put in the work and maintained my sobriety through things.
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Im proud of you for staying sober thru everything. That really shows ur strength and courage 
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