A compliment that I get that isn’t related to my physical appearance that I appreciate is that I am genuine. I spent so much energy trying to appease other people that I felt like I was playing a role in everyone’s life but my own. It’s nice to be seen.
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Belief: I am not salvageable.
Affirmation: my life has worth and I am worthy of all of the great things that come in recovery.The current state of things is temporary. I can own the responsibility of my past mistakes without letting them dictate my present / future responses.
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What was the most genuine thank you I’ve received recently?
My youngest son thanked me for being such a good mom and friend. I used to beat myself up over putting them through a divorce when they were young, but I also know that I did it for their sakes as well as mine. It feels good to have one of my kids let me know I did some things right.
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April 14
WNRS SELF-LOVE CARD PROMPT:
HOW HAVE I BEEN UNDERSELLING MYSELF, PERHAPS UNINTENTIONALLY?
My first thoughts on underselling myself were regarding work such as resumes, job interviews, performance reviews, setting prices for freelance work, etc so I spent some time digging around the internet. Found the two following articles/lists that were helpful for me in contemplating this one deeper. Most of them apply for me except the one relating to children and I’m going to continue to reflect on this one and work through different aspects of these in my journal over the next few days.
10 Signs You are Underselling Yourself
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You are underselling yourself if you think you don’t have anything left to offer the world.
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You are underselling yourself when you settle for relationships that don’t fit who you are or who you hope to become.
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You are underselling yourself every time you apply for a job that is far beneath your level of talent, skills, education and experience.
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You are underselling yourself if you use helping someone else achieve their dream as an excuse for not pursuing yours.
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You are underselling yourself when you remain in a job that is nothing more than a paycheck.
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You are underselling yourself every time you stop caring about your dreams.
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You are underselling yourself if you think your children are the only contribution you can make to humanity.
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You are underselling yourself whenever you tell yourself you are too _______ to do whatever your true self longs to do.
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You are underselling yourself if the things you spend your time doing aren’t bringing you alive.
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You are underselling yourself every time you decided to play it safe, rather than take the risk of stepping outside your comfort zone.
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You’re undervaluing yourself
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You’re overvaluing others
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You’re with someone who doesn’t challenge you
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You don’t demand respect
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You put up with things you shouldn’t
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You worry too much about what other people think
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April 15
WNRS SELF-LOVE CARD PROMPT:
WHAT CAN I TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THAT I’VE BEEN PLACING ON SOMEONE ELSE?
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What can I take responsibility for, that I’ve been placing on someone else?
How I feel…
I often blame others (stranger or not) for how I feel. Their actions caused me to feel mad or stressed or overwhelmed or sad. In reality… no one can MAKE me feel a certain way. I choose how their actions effect me and wether I allow them to rent space in my head. I try to see my part in the situation, instead of always pointing fingers at what THEY did. What role did I have to play in this?
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I have discovered that the only person who can keep me sober is myself. In the past, I would rely too much on my wife to keep me from drinking. The pressure I put on her was heavy. I feel horrible for the burden I paced on her. I am now taking full responsibility for myself and using the tools I’ve been given to achieve sobriety.
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I can take responsibility for my life feeling stagnant. I’ve been waiting on my father to go to the doctor & waiting on my partner to take the next steps with the bank for us to buy a house. These are the big corner stones of my current living situation but there are so many small things that I can change to get my life moving again and feel less stuck.
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I need to stop comparing myself to my “idea” of what I “should” be.
I have been working very hard on just “being” and what a freedom that is, I do however catch myself ever know and then falling back into old thinking. Sometimes I have been able to catch myself before it actually happens and other times I will catch myself amid an active thought. Regardless it’s a major improvement on my part thus far but there is still lots of room to improve.
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I have been underselling myself by not feeling secure in my creations, worrying that people will not be interested in them so I stop creating. I enjoy creating so it really shouldn’t matter if other people are interested or not. I can just have a plethora of crap in boxes if nothing sells.
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April 16
RUPI SELF-LOVE CARD PROMPT:
RIGHT NOW, WHAT MY BODY NEEDS MOST IS ____________
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Right now my body needs movement. Slow gentle restorative yoga.
Can I ask what u make and sell? I’m curious now 
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What my body needs right now?
I have no clue haha. I’m laying here trying to be in tune with myself and all that comes to mind is sleep and a warmth like a hot shower.
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What my body needs right now is to have my messy mind relax and become mindful of this beautiful day.
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April 17
WNRS SELF-LOVE CARD PROMPT:
WHAT AM I NOT WILLING TO SETTLE FOR IN RELATIONSHIPS TODAY, THAT I ALLOWED NOT TOO LONG AGO?
Edited April 20th to include my response:
This card was difficult for me to answer because it makes me see areas in different relationships where the things I want to say I’m not willing to settle for, I am indeed settling for. It makes me see the relationships that are no longer a good fit and that I’m realizing I should end. It makes me see the relationships where I need to speak up more and set boundaries.
I am not willing to settle for — relationships where conversations turn to alcoholism or addiction in a way that glorifies it as well as those that gas light and dismiss my addictions
I am not willing to settle for — relationships without real connection. I can get along with and form superficial connections with most people but I need to separate out those that are actually worth my time and nurturing. I will not settle for relationships with people that focus on how they will respond in a conversation instead of listening to actually hear and connect.
I am not willing to settle for — unsolicited commentary on my appearance or health
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I’ll catch up here tomorrow or maybe later tonight 
Thank you for continuing to post these 
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Right now, what my body needs most is rest and compassion.
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Happy to see you but I imagine you meant to post this on the check in thread?Oh you are right! My bad. Thanks for letting me know!