Hi everyone I have been spontaneously sober since September, I have had an alcohol dependency for 20 years prior to September 2025.
As I’m entering my 5 months of sobriety i realize im gonna need to eventually find my people.
No offense to anyone but A.A. and meetings are not for me. I Have tried a few online groups and created a sober Instagram account but I have to be honest im missing community and connection.
So I thought I would try this, I’m looking to create a community possible what’s app group of sober women/mothers who are also looking for the same kind of support.
We can do check in, support via direct msg/group atmosphere/success tools and resources and talk live weekly amongst eachother.
If this is something that interests you please reply with a msg letting me know and after we get atleast 5 ladies ill go ahead and start the what’s app group.
Welcome to Talking Sober and congrats on your sober time lady. Excellent work! Speaking for myself, I found my community of sober peeps right here, on this forum. It’s been and still is my main peer support place, for over 6.5 years now.
Made some real friendships all around the world, got a huge amount of support, gained a heap of knowledge, and trying to give some back to this community as well.
Give us a try! Whatever you do, wishing you all success with your sober journey. Welcome again. Hugs.
Welcome!! That is pretty much part of what we do here as well. I hope you will check out the forum and participate, there is a lot of support available here. It has helped me immensely over the past many years.
My social and support i have got of my AA meetings and here ,i wish you well on your journey
from 2008 suggested that people who struggle with addiction have a better prospect of successful long-term recovery if they participate in peer-support groups such as Alcoholics Anonymous.
AA was not for me either, until I ran out of other ways to stay sober. If the path you are on is working for you, please know I am genuinely glad for you.
I would much rather not have to do any work to stay sober myself.
That said, many of us here have found our lives in 12 step programs and other recovery programs. So if I could ask one small thing, out of respect to those who do practice those ? Perhaps. Just a suggestion. May I be so bold? Please be mindful about speaking negatively of any program while you are here.
I definitely agree with you that we all should respect everyone’s program, AA or not.
But I don’t see any evidence that she spoke negatively about any program. I only see her sharing her experience about attending meetings and them not being for her, as well as not being someone who uses forums. To me neither of those things are “speaking negatively” about any program, simply stating her lived experience in an honest and inoffensive way!
Maybe this is a misunderstanding on my part, and if so I apologize for overstepping. I just don’t want anyone to feel unwelcome
Hello and Welcome! I have been here on and off and I can say that this community is one of THE most supportive I have found. At one point I even joined a sober forum on reddit, but that turned out to be very toxic and full of people not working on themselves. AA may not be for most people, but I found it helpful to go to in person meetings. Even just listening to people’s stories and their experience, taking what I want and leaving What doesn’t apply to me. I have learned that recovery is just not about obstaining from alcohol but about fixing yourself. And working on your character, defects and finding happiness in service and helping others. Very happy to have you here and look forward to your future posts.
Congrats for your 5 months of sobriety! Finding a groups of people who can understand and empathize with you concerning your struggles with addiction and recovery is really important for long term sobriety and I’m psyched to hear you are wanting to build a community for just that reason!
Just as another option, there is a message function on this app, so if you wanted to DM a specific group of women that is definitely a possibility! That way you could also spend some time reading other supportive threads all in one place!
I hope you find your community of support, whether is here or not! Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you need extra support or have questions about the forum!
I have translucent skin at times, and those times are often. it doesn’t take much for someone to say to make me think, “forget these people, they are not like me” … and maybe this is a misunderstanding myself, please accept my humble apologizes. I aim to be in the solution, not another problem. and that’s what AA was trying to teach me, yet i am a slowbriety learner.
I didn’t get sober alone, and that’s the honest truth. It was people like you who told me to keep coming back. I could always stop drinking, I just couldn’t figure out a way to “stay stopped” .. until I surrendered.
You and me both! I definitely understand wanting to stand up for what you believe, especially when it’s been so helpful for you!
I think there is a mutual understanding between us of wanting to help others, and that’s what matters! I feel like we all have a lot to learn, I am no different!
One possibility to hang around here for a while and find people that are close to your values, etc, and start a thread with them, or even a private pm (private mail thread). There are threads like the Christian thread, atheist thread, that are pretty tight knit. And there are also some private pms, such as a women in AA thread, but some I don’t know because they are private!
and that’s what AA was trying to teach me, yet i am a slowbriety learner.