That is common. Both the alcohol and the porn are avoidance and escape. The question of what you’re feeling, and riding that feeling & learning from it - there is a lot to learn from feelings if you ride them; and in fact they serve a valuable function we’ve been numbing in porn and alcohol! - that question is the valuable one here.
The useful thing about resource groups is there are others there who are in the same shoes & they can help you walk your path; they’ve been there: