All anyone’s tried to do here is help.
As different tactics were tried and failed, others were deployed.
I too hope something makes its way in to turn the corner for him…
Early days are hard, not least because the biggest revelations about oneself are needing to be uncovered and accepted.
For some of us it requires a nice, low bottom. I know it did for me, and this guy seems a lot like I did before I got sober. Angry, combative, confused, in denial, and arrogant. So, though we all tried, he’s most likely going to have to lose everything before he can gain sobriety.
Step 1. Come onto forum and demand tough love and facts.
Step 2. Receive what you asked for.
Step 3. Pitch a wee moody because while the truth will set you free, it’s going to sting you on the front bum first.
Step 4. Threaten to leave forum “I’m out.” , but not before calling people names and flailing about like a cat caught in the dryer.
It’s ok. This is believable addict behaviour. Get a sober day under your belt and reflect. Be gentle with yourself. When you feel anger dont post. Just read. Throw dishes at the wall. But get a sober day under that belt and then another. Because the soberer you get, the clearerer you will think.
I want you to be happy and healthy. Like all addicts, you are a person deeply meaningful to someone, but your addict voice is speaking for you- which isnt fair to you or anyone.
You’ll see it with a couple days under your belt. Go to outpatient, try a meeting. Try.
I believe in you.
Hey struggler I believe everyone is still hanging about BC were all nosey bastards there’s my truth .I’m on a honest journey with a honest tounge and I speak truth without an ego today.
Wish you old the best … remember something at sometime has to give and it’s not the world around and the ppl in it ,it’s on you to make the change.
When I feel sorry for myself, I have been known to wander aimlessly around the house making sad-piece-of-shit noises.
Hi, sorry you’re having a hard time. I can relate to the skepticism and wishing for real connection and honest talk. People here are really supportive, so I definitely recommend coming here often. Hang in there and “keep coming back” (here).
That’s one of many reasons the rooms never worked for me and another is how cliquey they were but that’s another subject. You need to find that right person who you can be straight up with and tell them I don’t need this because it doesn’t help what I need it x y and z. If you need a listening ear feel free to message me. Took a lot of relapses, homelessness and court which never worked and a friends death to get me clean. We have all been there, you aren’t alone
If u really want it u will wat else can anyone say look what u set to lose using and wat u will gain not using we’ve all had a hard life if u truly want to b clean u will
He ain’t lying brother…
You sound a lot like my fiancé and what he is going through right now. He’s got a successful business, was hiding the addiction from me with not a clue from me. He would go behind everyone’s back and hurt them just to get the drug, and it’s not like he was a “crackhead” either. He’s intelligent and a great father, he was sick. And you are sick too, you need to find someone to vent to, someone to manage your money, and a way to preoccupy your time. Going to NA meetings, walks and even spending what money you would spend on drugs on a new restaurant or outing to use that money wisely. I hope you can stay clean, people care about you!
You want some real talk…
Don’t feel offended and mods… He is asking for that though love. Don’t bash me on it 
You struggle, you is the problem. You and your 5% succes rate for quiting and staying clean. Don’t project that on others who do their best.
Get of the freaking high horse and get ready to surrender your will… Yes your will, what has your will gotten you? An active addiction you seem powerless over, if you continue on this path you’ll die or go crazy if you aren’t crazy allready.
So I suggest you shut up go to meetings for at least 4 months read one card out loud every meeting and just don’t use for a day. If you relapse don’t worry go back. An do as I suggest read another card. Listen to shares listen to them people brag… Who cares what they say you want to get sober don’t you… O wait… Do you want to get clean or don’t you?
The real question is… Are you done using are you done feeling sorry. Are you done struggle, well are you?
Just surrender just give up, do as people who’ve proven it can work tell you and who knows it might stick one day.
Good luck in you struggles. Nothing but love
*wanted to add I haven’t read the threat just replied on OP.
I definitely understand that i dont feel meeting work for me n even so much that a friend of mine decided to tell me i wasn’t in recovery til i attended meeting …but they don’t work for me the only for today doesn’t motivate me i feel in my head i got to know i wont use today tomorrow or next week the meeting are a trigger for me wen i leave a meeting i want to go use n i hate it idk just don’t like the blah blah blah stuff n i don’t do meeting i fibe it better to just get on here it helps me
No my doc is meth n crack cocaine so this forum is for everyone
3 years later are you less, or more, of a POS?
I’m asking with the utmost love and adoration.
