Look, mate… Real talk. You aren’t ready.
This place, or another, will still be there when you are.
All the best.
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“You’re not even in my level as an addict” what does that even mean??
You not the first addict to think they are special or different but you are been flat out rude to someone offering advise or the “real support” you supposedly want, but what does someone with 3 years sober know 
You questioned the success rate in AA and wanted someone with experience, @Meggers has experience… so do many others here.
Try listening, that’s why we have two ears and one mouth… oops sorry that’s a cliche
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You will find that every reply you get on this thread with advice and suggestions is coming from a place of caring. Even if it doesn’t always feel like it. No one has to be here, people usually comment because they can relate to something you wrote on some level, and want to share their experience with you.
When we feel vulnerable and emotional (which is basically the definition of early recovery) it is easy to take things personally and get on the defensive. Even when we aren’t in early recovery it is easy to do that!
Sometimes the things we don’t want to hear are the things we need to hear, even if it doesn’t always feel like it. I would also say that we are people from all over the world with different cultures and personalities, what can come across as aggressive to one may be ‘real talk’ to another. That’s the reason the forum rules state that we should assume people are posting with good intentions 
There have been lots of suggestions on this thread of things you could try - what do you think you might do?
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There is a difference between real talk and bullying or arguing. I’m not going to engage in either. Let me tell you this. A piece of shit is a piece of shit with it claims to be clean or not. Don’t bother to respond. I do appreciate Those helpful “real talk “ post (Tess). But it appears there’s a click on here and I don’t do clicks I’m not better than anyone and I’m at my own level. I’m struggling to stop using just like all of you did. I am not a fan of aa and na and a few of you don care for that. That’s the problem with this world trying to force your believe on others. I just wanted real talk not language and aggression. Some of you need to leav this app you’re not helping. I am leaving now I was honest with my words. That’s real talk. Again peace and love I’m out
*clique
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No one is getting at you bud. You are over sensitive.
Maybe see you when everything you have read on here sinks in.
Maybe not.
Stay safe.
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Good luck. We will be here when you get back.
Sometimes the things we don’t want to hear are the things we need to hear.
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I understand there is a fine line between real talk and bullying but not once have I said anything mean to you, yet you appear to be calling me a piece of shit?
No one is saying AA or NA is the only way but I am saying maybe have a read and take in some of the information on offer from those who have gotten sober.
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I agree lots say but not very many do…
Look, I’m not trying to bully you. I’m trying to get your attention. This disease will kill anyone. Smart, dumb, in between. Rich, poor, in between. First world country, third world country, tribe in Africa, anything in between. You don’t like my language, then I won’t use it with you. But before you cast judgement about my level maybe you should go read some of my posts from the past 3 years.
I want to see you not dead. That’s my only wish here.
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A lot of us weren’t ready when we first came on here and this is not the first, nor the last exchange of this sort. Early days can be so challenging. Our emotions are everywhere, we generally feel like crap, we are confused, unsure of how to proceed, in mental pain, anxious, the list is endless. I know I was searching for help and support and how to ‘do’ this. It was exhausting. I am hopeful @Struggler sticks around and can find some footing. Sometimes we get off on the wrong foot here, some who posted in this thread have as I recall (self included). So many different people and different approaches. 
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That’s the real deal right there…
Good advice there!! Reading on here was really helpful for me as well. We all start on day 1, we all need to find our way.
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He’s calling me a piece of shit.
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Those are my favorites, too. Playing the tape forward is unbelievably effective…
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Can i be a piece of shit too!?
Ooh! With corn pieces!
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You guys made me laugh, but let’s not instigate anymore. I mean it, I only want him to live and be free from this terrible disease. I want that for everyone. I took a shot at trying to jar him into paying attention and hopefully it works, but I did it in a particular way that was, in fact, very agressive. It was on purpose, but now I’ve said all I have to say. I will pray, in my own peculiar way, that he finds a way out of the darkness.
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