Anyone else dealing with job loss? What are you doing to cope? I was the only employee let go from a 7-person firm. So I am having a hard time finding closure. The other employees were reduced to 80% of their hours. I am also a woman in a male-dominated career and have always prided myself in my work relationships and being on good terms with past employers. Now I just feel left holding the bag and I am not sure why. I’ve been sober since 12/14/16, so obviously nothing related to my drinking.
Anyway, if you are finding ways to cope or are just plain mad, I would love to hear.
That’s shitty. I’m sure once this shit all clears up you will find something better. When I got fired from my last attorney job I was quite sure that my entire career, and life, was over. Turns out I wasn’t really that happy as an attorney. I really like what I do now, even if I took a huge pay cut to do it. Life’s a lot cheaper when you are spending $1,000 a week on drugs.
Well… Doesn’t that just suck the big one?!
I really feel for you. Appears very much as an unfair situation, and one which i too would be confused, upset, and increasingly angry over.
Don’t have any valid advice for you, but wanted to let you know i hear you and feel you on this situation.
I understand what you are going thru. Last year I was a supervisor and was finally up for a manager position. Instead of getting that position my position was restructured out and I was let go. On my way out the door with my severance package I interviewed for a lesser position. I got that position and came back a couple weeks later. It turned out I ended up doing double the work for $10,000 less money and was being treated horribly by a manager. I stuck it out and prayed. I have been with the company for 17 years at that time. 2 months went by and I got promoted to a manager position this time with a raise. Now I am furloughed. I stopped worrying about these things or getting upset because I never know what is around the corner. I live with in my means and do my best. The rest I turn over (as much as possible). There may be a reason you are moving on. Something better is out there where you can showcase your talents.
Hang in there stay strong. I’m in the same boat as well .as are alot of people I know just take a day at a time .find a creative outlet to keep Mind occupied.Best of luck to you God Bless.
I’m afraid that’s what I might have to do, too, make less money at my next job. Which was also less than the job before. I admire your attitude of going with the flow. At least with a furlough it sounds like they plan on having you come back again.
Sounds like the change was good for you! I honestly don’t know what else I could do for a job besides engineering after so many years. My sponsor thinks I should pray, geeesh!!
Good luck to you, too, in all of this. I wish there was a job board of AA’s in recovery hiring other AA’s. That way we’d all have great jobs and amazing bosses!
I kept losing money. I now make what I was make back in 2016 with more responsibility. I’m divorced so my spending habits had to be changed. My kids are 14 and 10. We sat down and I was honest with them. Some things the we would do and they would would have when or if I could afford it. I found I could live on less. I make things last. I do my best with what I have. The program tells me to remember to be grateful so that is what I do. I turn it over to God (higher power) like they suggest and I do things 24 hours at a time. If I look to far ahead or look back at what I had it will cause me to take my will back. Those are the days I get angry or depressed to the point I don’t want to get out of bed. Pray. Turn it over. Be still. Things have a way of working out.
I’ve been laid off 5 times in my career. The first one was the hardest, and it happened during the dotcom meltdown. Found another gig, and got laid off from that one a year later. Repeated this with another company. All three companies ended up in bankruptcy.
What I learned was this had absolutely nothing to do with my performance, and everything to do with the company’s performance. Thin gruel when you are the one on unemployment, but it is the truth. Knowing this, the next two times the I was laid off, it was much easier to accept, and as a result, I recovered from the setbacks quickly, both times finding a new position within a month. Even had a bit of severance left to stick in savings.
Regarding salary, it helps to understand that the labor market works just like every other supply/demand market. When you have a surplus of labor, wages are lower. I say this so you won’t take it personally if your next job pays less.
The good news is, I see many new opportunities arising from this downturn. New industries and markets for PPE, business continuity, work-from-home products and services.
This is a crisis, both societal and for many, personal. However, with change comes opportunity. The quicker you move past looking behind you to looking in front of you, the faster you will identify the opportunities just for you.
You might want to speak to an employment attorney. Yes it is a shitshow out there and yes a lot of people have to be let go and are hurting, but that doesn’t mean that employers get to a free pass when it comes to acting improperly with the hopes that CV would “hide” everything.
Sadly, employers pretty much CAN do whatever they want. California is an at-will state and an they don’t even need to give you a reason for letting you go.
I’ve reached out to an employment rights attorney. She might still help me – I sort of sat on it for a few weeks. I wrote to her again just now to ask.
I’m a mechanic, who just so happens to be female. So I completely understand what it feels like to work in a Male dominated field. And I’m also beyond frustrated with our current economic climate. I’ve been partially laid off with the promise of unemployment. Yet I’ve been denied unemployment 5x as it is by the Department of Labor. And whilst everyone else working with me has received their stimulus checks, I’m just waiting over here and barely scraping by. It’s overwhelming and infuriating beyond belief. But there hasn’t been anything I can do, except give it over to my higher power and trust that I haven’t come this far to fall on my face.
