I’m usually quite emphatic, so this hit me home hard.
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Perfect… that says it all! 
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Ha ha, 
Pissed, is one of those words that means something different in England than in America. It means drunk to us. Like “fanny. I was in a client’s US office and someone said “Hal looked really pissed this morning”. I imagined him bouncing off desks etc.
Worse is the difference with Australian English. I was talking with a world leading consultant in MS at an international conference and my Australian CEO walked up and said to us “Hi Graham, are you going to introduce me to this wanker?”
All I could think of was " He has just called the next speaker a c**t”! 
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Oh yeah, I’ve come across this!
Although English is not my first language, I would’ve find wanker rude!
Also, Fanny, can be a girls name, at least in Finland and Sweden that I know of. My friend here named here daughter that.
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Wow @CapriciousCapricorn thank you so much. That was so deep and amazing I’m kinda at a loss for words. Thank you for caring, it really means a lot to me. I will focus on approaching it as a Doc like you suggest, thank you again for being kind and awesome. Have a great night my friend 
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@CapriciousCapricorn so profound! This really clicked for me (hope you don’t mind me jumping on this, Rob), because I’ve been kinda thinking this way, looking back and grieving a lost friendship with someone who betrayed my trust and hurt me in an unforgivable way. I had been having doubts, romanticizing the relationship. I don’t want to go backwards now and I needed to hear that. Thank you.
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Don’t mind at all @RosaCanDo I’m consistently amazed by the wisdom and love the people in our group have for each other. Truly blessed to have people who care and who I consider to be true friends even though we’re thousands of miles away. Thank you again @CapriciousCapricorn you’re a rockstar!
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Hi,
I know not all of us have the expectations from our parents that we expect. In fact, far from it. But we draw on our threngths and learn and that makes us stronger,! ,
I have to second this. Family is supposed to be there, hell or high water.
My mother stopped speaking to me in 1998 for reasons unknown, and I’ll never find out because she has passed now. 
yeah I guess. but if they are toxic a holes I think its better if they leave. I dunno.
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I definitely agree …usually toxic codependent behavior happens as you will treat family at a different degree that u may not do with a friend. when everyone should have equal opportunity. Family can be very toxic as well as it can be good relationship. In many senses u may have a better friend relationship then you do with a family member. Family can screw you over and abuse you if your codependent. Not as much physically but mentally as they may gaslight or pull strings they know they can get away with knowing they are family.
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