I love this @AyBee! I’m afraid I’m borrowing this one my friend 
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This. So much.
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And this, too. Wow. Thanks.
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I struggle with this one as well with my kids. Their discomfort and sadness and pain makes me so uncomfortable… it’s a common “problem” that I think we all need to be more aware of. It’s hard for me to let someone just express their feelings when they’re feeling down. But I know creating that space for them (if we’re able) is so important. It helps the person feel seen and heard. I’m going through it right now on the other side, someone wants me to just see things one way while dismissing everything else. I just… can’t. I’m not trying to stay in victim mode, but I need to work through it, not pretend it never happened.
Anyways, thanks for sharing 
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Friends, I once saw this meme or pic of a wheelshaped feelings diagram on here. I tried to download at the time but the data was broken and could not be opened. I’ve always wanted that pic but don’t know who posted it or where really. If anyone has it, could you repost?
Also gonna tag @Matt in case it was you, I really don’t remember. 
Thanks so much 
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Yeeeesss thanks a lot!
Half of the battle when we are trying to figure our recovery out is being aware of what we need to work at and work on. I’m realising that my way didn’t work and that I have to try another way…learning all over again. This used to scare me but now I’m finding my eyes are opening and acknowledging is helping me to repair. Hope this makes sense??? Glad I got you and this family with me whilst I try to figure these things out. I’m going to see my friend later, he’s our family mechanic so he’s doing my car service (so I can socially distance and see him whilst I get my car lol) I’m going to shut my mouth and listen to what’s going on with him. I’m not going to make any comment, just listen and let him off load. I’m also learning that just because someone is sharing these personal heavy things with me doesn’t mean they need advice… just an ear. 
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I’ve read that a gratitude practice of listing items is fine, but we can get more impact by taking time each day to elaborate just a bit more on why we feel grateful for that “thing.” I started doing this a while back and I really am appreciating this daily exercise. Even just a few sentences.
Here’s a pretty good article that talks about digging deeper in a gratitude practice:
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The Feelings Wheel I posted is at post 1000 in the thread. It is laid out to show the ‘antithesis’ / ‘opposite’ feelings across from each other on the circle. Its actually a camera shot of a printout that I keep by my desk for 10th steps. If you’d like I can hunt down the original clean format version.
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(Full poem)
I connect to the rhythm of how I really feel. I pause and dig a little deeper, is there something more for me?
Under the layers of feelings, I find the root and the seed, I realize my feeling was not what it seemed.
But when I sit and listen for a while, it’s like it passes through. The feeling leaves my body, and now I know my truth.
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