Holy sh*t @CapriciousCapricorn I needed to hear that right now! How did you know??? Thank you for posting this!!!
This one 
Touched my inner core!
Same here!
I’m struggling with forgiveness at the mo, this is very helpful thanks @Lionfish. I think I have forgiven but what happens when one can’t forget? 
work in progress I guess. I’m just so so glad I’m sober so I can figure this stuff out clear headed. 
Is it with yourself you’re practicing forgiveness or with others? Or both?
My husband was sex messaging other women years back. I was nursing my mum who had lung cancer and lived 50 miles away. He said he was lonely 
it was 15 years ago. We had two small boys 2+7 so I decided to not rip the fam apart. I was actively drinking lots and it was easy to pretend it didn’t happen. Since getting sober it has inevitably bubbled up and I made the decision to forgive and move on. But I just can’t shake it. I just keep thinking what if I was to get poorly!? He’d be lonely then…my lads are grown now, 18+23. My life is constantly changing, which is great. I just need to figure out how to forgive AND forget 
…sorry for long reply 
No worries at all about the long reply and that makes total sense to me. I really hope you get some peace and acceptance soon 
Thank you this thread calms my mind and I enjoy trying the tips and tricks to help my mental health. In time I’m sure it will all sort its self out. At least my head is clear in order to chew through all of these feelings.
Getting over betrayal isn’t necessarily forgiving or forgetting. Look into coming back from betrayal and dig deeper within yourself. I totally feel for you and with you on this one.
