Congrats on 3 days, now set your sights on day 4!
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Thanks pirate!
Day 4ā¦ its hard but I can resist!
Everything worth while is hard thatās what makes the victory so sweet
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Day #5 and goingā¦
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Enjoy the ride and feel the momentum
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I relapsed 
. I couldnt help it. I found the main culprit to be my phone and environment.
Day#0!
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Remember, triggers do exist but ultimately you make the choice to use. Yes, I did delete Instagram from my phone because of all the eye candy that pops up. It does make sobriety harder to have your drug of choice close at hand. But didnāt a part of you know that you were risking temptation looking at racy content? Maybe try looking a level deeper and ask yourself what was going on in your life that you went seeking your comfort?
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Sai come to terms with the fact that you were the main culprit, the phone was just a tool you used. Ask yourself what was happening that lead you to using the tool to act out instead of reaching out for help.
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Start again and put boundaries speak with someone about it and never ever give up
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Day #2 iām not giving upā:slightly_smiling_face:
! I love this community where I could share anything. Thanks for your responses and tips guysā:slightly_smiling_face:
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Sai thanks for coming back and not giving up! Every time someone does that it shows others they can do it to.
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Hang in there Sai. Youāre doing fine. There just comes a time when we realize that we have to lay down these boyish ways because they no longer serve us. Keep going, day by day. Just persist through the fog and as you get more sobriety under your belt things start to become clearer. Sometimes when we look around in that clarity the things we see are stark reality and we feel even more vulnerable because we are face to face with all the problems weāve been ignoring by acting out. I felt vulnerable because I couldnāt run back to the comfort. I would use to solve any problem I had. It never let me down. Porn was my cure for boredom, sadness, stress, gray weather, etc, etc, etc. But the side effects are far worse than the imagined benefits(lies) our addict minds keep telling us. We feel safer in the fog of addiction because itās what we know. We squashed the negative emotions through the dopamine shot ee get from pmo. Itās how we learned to cope with the things in our life that are suboptimal. When we begin to sense what sober life is like; full of emotion and dynamic and hurtful and downright hard sometimes, it feels like salt in an open wound and we want to return to the high of PMO where we feel safe. Trying to be sober, Itās like entering into the fray without the shield we used to cover our hearts. Or maybe riding without our training wheels? Whatever metaphor you likeā¦But the harder you focus on sobriety and the quicker you get back on the bike/horse when you fall, the faster you learn and the further youāll go. Youāll find the bravery to face life without it. First, you have to believe that you can.
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@Mtrav0040 I love your words. It is pure truth. Thanks for putting words to my thoughts
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Day 10 sober. @Sai welcome to the war!!! We are fighting for our freedom. Welcome brother!
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Day 3 sober. Hahaā¦and the war is on @Bomdhilā¦Never give upā¦be NARUTO!
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Day #5.48 to Day #0š° Have to focus on my new habits rather than my bad ones!
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Day #1 the journey starts.
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What are you going to change to make this attempt different?
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Agreed, if what you were doing before has failed you, you need to try something else.
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