I feel really good lately but that has not changed my drinking behaviors eventhough I expected it would. I was sober from September until December but relapsed and now I am just not able to stop. I just keep drinking and it’s getting so easy to reach for something, even in the morning.
Now there is a girl that agreed to go out with me on a date which is pretty cool cause I’ve been feeling so fucked lately. Now I really want to make a change cause I know I’ll mess it up otherwise.
Do you guys have tips to really fight through it this time? I just don’t want to long for alcohol anymore every night.
I started dating someone while I was in active addiction. I dragged her through almost 2 years of my insanity. It was an incredibly selfish thing for me to do. It hurt her. It hurt me. Don’t be like me. If you are reaching for the bottle in the morning then you’re not anywhere near a place where you can be healthy in a relationship.
I got sober by going to rehab and then staying in AA. Only after a looooot of self work was I able to be healthy in a relationship. If you wanna quit drinking that needs to be your only focus.
I’m not a mental health professional and I deal with a different addition but one thing I do is immerse myself in things I enjoy, creative outlets are always helpful, drawing or coloring can help relax and take your mind off stuff. Another thing is if it’s Beer that your addicted to than I would suggest liquid death sparkling water? Im no pro and sorry if this comment only made things harder, but just know that I believe in you, and know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and that you will see it. Keep on taking care of yourself, reach out to support groups in your area if it’s available, you have already taken the biggest step in recovery by attempting to end your addiction. - a friend
The first relationship you need to have is a non-romantic relationship with other people who have long-term sobriety. You need to learn how to live sober and free, and learn the daily habits that make that possible.
There are groups you can join here: Resources for our recovery. Talking Sober is a good place to learn too. I use both.
It is tempting to imagine that some new romantic relationship will motivate you to stay sober. That is your addiction lying to you. It is trying to wedge itself into your life; it is trying to rationalize itself and say “this isn’t so bad, I just need to have a new person in my life or a new place to live or etc etc” - and by saying that it’s hoping to trick you into maintaining the only real relationship you have now: the one with your addiction.
You don’t want that relationship. To fix that, you need to learn how to have a sober relationship with yourself, and to do that, you need to learn from other addicts who have developed long-term sobriety.
I never thought I’d want a drink in the morning until I did. That ended up being the worst of my active alcoholism and totally destroyed me. I had to be beaten down even more and went through hosptial visits and detox in that time span. AA is what has been working for me. It gives you a program to meet other like minded people, stay sober, and focus on helping yourself and others. It’s already a great start to want to not long for that drink. Life won’t stop coming at you of course but you’ll be much better equipped to dealing with it. Wishing the best for you l
Getting in to a relationship at the moment is a very bad idea in my opinion if your still drinking your not able to properly look out for yourself never mind someone else so the best thing you can do is to concentrate on yourself and your recovery , I got sober by using AA meeting and this app , I spent all my time on recovery because in my opinion that’s what it takes at the start of it
