So im 48 days clean today and for some of you thats been following along or read some of my posts know that im also in a 10 year relationship thats coming to an end as well. Weve been sleeping in separate bedrooms in our house to stay away from each other. Well she came home again high on Thursday which led to an argument and her leaving again that night. Super triggered at this point, im so close to breaking!!! Well, i get off of work Friday and come home and shes not there. She comes walking through the door at 830pm and stays for an hour packing a bag and getting ready to go out was my taking by how she got dressed up…im assuming to make me jealous/attention… i didnt say anything to her and she left. No communication at all when she will be back or anything like that. She comes back tonight at 830pm again high as ive ever seen her and starts slamming doors reffering to everything as yall and you guys for some reason… anyways gets super pissed off that she cant fugure out how to switch her t.v to hdmi and demands that i do it so i refuse asking her to leave me alone… she then comes flying into the livingroom flipping the coffee table over which busted my leg open in two separate places causing it to bleed and swell up accusing me of hacking into her t.v and setting up a camera in her room…like, seriously!? Goes into my room and breaks my t.v and sound bar and then proceeds back into her room to pack yet another bag to leave for the night. I told her she had 10 minutes or im calling the law and have her thrown in jail… ugh, what do i do… im so lost, 10 years. Its over and i know it but shes making it impossible to do this civily now and is really pushing my buttons and becoming a major trigger… this shits got to stop. I want to tell somebody, her family, her kids… but i would never do that. It sucks having to sit hack and continue to watch her destroy everything around her with her binge that shes currently on. I dont and cant trust her. She cant afford this place without me and i really likd it where we are at… she has no place to go and shes on the lease… i think im about to be forced to move out and figure it out from there. This is starting to get out of control, well…it has been but even more and thats the reason i chose sobriety, i want control over my life again and i feel trapped. Never in a million years did i think i would be writing something like this but here i sit 
Thats tough for sure. Im proud of you for staying sober!
It may be time to change the living situation especially with her triggers and violence.
You are still sober and her behavior is obviously not appropriate. Hang in there and remember her fate is no longer on your account. You you have your own sobriety and interests to protect. I would leave her for the sake of your own sanity and sobriety…
A better future is waiting for u just gotta stay strong . Change is hard ;( but you will regret one decision, and you won’t regret the other. Maybe u could try going out and spending more time away from the house when she comes home ? also, music can be a very helpful tool. Just make sure u listen to the right music .
Stay strong and stay sober. I hope you can permanently get away from her. Hope your leg is OK!!
I would say change the locks but she’s on the lease. Call the police if she starts busting things up again, don’t put up with that behavior. Completely unacceptable.
Hang in there.
Her behavior needs to have consequences. As long as you keep letting her slide, she’s going to continue to make your life a living hell. Make her leave. Doesn’t matter that she on the lease, she’s destroying your home. If she doesn’t leave willingly, call the law. She can go stay with her family and then they’ll see her true colors.
Shes now currently threatening me that if i call the law she will tell them that i beat her because she has a little scrap on her leg from coming in the house the way she did busting everything up… im currently locked in my room with a recorder going. When the sun comes up im calling the law to pack my things ( update) in the middle of me writing this message she just broke our livingroom t.v, completely just up ended the entire entertainment stand. I want to leave now but i know she wont let me and now she has me scared…i dont want to go to jail over her bullshit … im trying to do right, i really really am
For sure stay sober. For sure, for sure, for sure.
She’s gone beserk
You can’t leave?
Edit. I see. You’re afraid she’ll charge you with assault.
Hey Billy im sorry ive only just just seen this, her behaviour is appauling but she clearly has some very big issues she needs to work through, in a way i feel for her as ok people dont behave like this but only she can do that herself, nobody can do it for her and she isnt your responsibility now. Youve gotta put yourself first hard as it is, do not use as that will help nothing, youve come too far and done too well to risk that now, whats the situation now?
That is a terrible situation. Definitely document her breaking stuff and generally being high so you can protect yourself if she tries to blame you for anything. I think you need to get out of there asap.
What a horrible situation. You first of all have to protect yourself. Dokument her destroying and threatening you. Call the police. Get out of there asap. Sending you strength!
@Billy85 give us an update when you’re able. Your last post about her destroying more property is very disturbing. I’m scared for you. I’m hoping you haven’t posted because you’re either busy getting yourself out or having the law remove her.
Hey guys, so i was able to get ahold of a family memeber of hers and they got her a hotel room for the night. Ive been catching up on sleep, i didnt get to bed until almost 4am…so, im just getting up. I just remained as calm as i could be cause at the end of the day i spent 10 years with this woman and i know this is not her, its the drugs… there will he some very firm boundaries placed when we talk next. Thank you all for replying and checking in. This group is amazing! Seriously!!!
Thank you for the update. Good that you are safe now 
Shit man I’m sorry to read all of this that’s a pretty rough situation but sounds like you’re doing the right thing so far glad you told some of her family & she’s in a room. You have to do what’s good for you. I went through a similar situation with the mother of my son although she went through severe episodes of psychosis. You just stay clean no matter what man put one foot in front of the other, don’t use, and everything will happen the way it’s supposed to even if we don’t necessarily like it. I’m praying for you man take care
Glad to hear you’re ok and staying strong.
I’m so happy to know you’re okay.
The lose of someone who was in your life for such a long time is sad and hard regardless of the bullshit that’s happening. I’m so relieved to know that your boundaries are going up.
Sometimes life forces us into the best decisions we can make for ourselves. You chose sobriety and it’s showing you a better way to live. If you’re forced to leave I’m inclined to say “Sobriety is also choosing you.”
I know what it feels like to be completely uprooted. I’m not saying that’s easy but choosing to live your truth might be exactly what you need to stay sober. I hope you keep finding motivation during this tough transition.
Keep coming back 
