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many of us drink because we are thinking ‘fuck it’,
I’ve been on the “fuck it” train all my life. It very conveniently stops and picks you up everywhere. I pray to never get back on it again. 
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Haha, I like that. Don’t get on the Fuck It Train. 
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What makes you think you are going to be alone for the rest of your life?
I have found that through sobriety I have so many more meaningful connections. It did take time to get there though.
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Telling someone to …not think like that…not how you address situation. Yuk.
Well, thank you Dr. Phil; I only wrote what I felt…
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She’s fine. I am more hurt by people who say I’m not doing things right or telling me I must get a sponsor.
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I was thinking in terms of all the covid fear, people avoiding each other physically.
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I want sobriety for all…we are not broken, we think how we think… impulsively. What we are responsible for is our actions.
If thoughts were real we’d all be doing life in prison.
You can do it if we can…be easy on yourself and even get to like her after awhile.
Love to all… Donna…this is my hot button…I apologise to you personally.
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It is very easy to fall into thinking that how it is now is how it will always be. Things will change, whether or not we drink.
Being sober doesn’t make everything easy and it doesn’t mean we feel amazing all the time. What it does mean is that we are in a much better position to recognise and make the most of the opportunities that come our way, which they inevitably will sooner or later 
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I failed my own pep talk but I hope it worked for you. Second reset for me. I am tired of this and resetting. But I DID reset and find NOT delete the app. Very tired is all. Husband was in the hospital emergency this weekend… I’m exhausted… So is he. No drinks for either of us though. I am just so tiref
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always get and stay sober FOR YOU. That’s my advice. Put yourself before all the garbage and look around 
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Maybe don’t think of it so harshly as not doing something right. These are just suggestions or tools to maybe approach the situation/ struggle differently. You made this decision to stop drinking for a reason yes? Maybe think back to the “why”… there will always be shitty situations and shitty people, but you have the choice to overcome it or dwell in it. I agree to an extent the only nice thing so far for me has been the weight loss and better skin, but I have 3 kids and a fiance so my situation and why is different, but I’m learning things about myself that I ignored with drinking. I hope you find some peace with yourself!! It’s not easy. Hugs girl
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Just find a new more entertaining thing to keep ur mind busy
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Sorry to hear about the reset, but I’m glad you both are going to try to quit together. I don’t think I could be in a relationship if the other person kept drinking and I wanted to quit.
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Thanks for your advice. I am saying people could be more constructive about their advice by not glibly saying “Oh sounds like you’re not doing things right”. It’s like, “Oh gee thanks, YA THINK? Thanks for the encouragement, know-it-all”. Not all of us are at 365 or whatever.
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Easier said than done. I wish you well in your newly sober journey.
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I feel you here. I relapsed on my 89th day, as my birthday was coming up and I feel like I’m going to be alone forever.
Trust me, it’s not worth it. Stay strong and talk to someone when the urges start.
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Thank you, and I’m sorry about your relapse. Yes, the being alone part is not something I relish, as I will have a hard time trusting anyone again. I’m just glad I didn’t throw away my 90 days over that guy and my coworker. I would have felt so lame. Feel free to to talk to me here if you need to!
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I will! I’m on lunch break now and have to get back to work, but I’ll get back to you! 