Iām determined not to reset my app 23 days in slipped up the other night had 2 drinks and nothing else, no cocaine so thatās a big one, feeling good holding onto that, another sober day and night for me, work today 
Happy Saturday all
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I still say u need to be asking those around u to not drink around uā¦
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Your path is your path. For me getting sober was about a lot more than just quitting drinking. One thing was about being totally honest with myself.
What does being sober mean to you?
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I just felt called to share my own experience here.
When I started sober time, my counter was set for alcohol. If I drank, I reset. And I did, my first week in. Iām on day 1946 today.
I had medically prescribed marijuana and still used that. I didnāt touch alcohol and thatās what my counter was set for. So I didnāt reset that when I decided to become fully sober.
At that point, I set a new counter up for marijuana and when I smoked again, that got reset. Iām currently on day 571 straight with no use.
Being honest with myself has been a HUGE part of my recovery. I didnāt want to start either timer over but if I convinced myself with my twisted thinking that it was OK to not reset, Iād personally most assuredly use again. Thatās my alcoholic default mode. Justifying my addictions. I had to get honest with myself for recovery.
Wish you well on your journey! Keep going, you are worth it. 
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People should do whatever works best for them.
One thing Iāve always been on the fence about is counting days, hours, minutes. Itās good to keep a record of when you stopped for a few reasons, but holding onto that religiously, wearing it like a badge constantly, can also be discouraging if thereās a relapse. After my 3+ years of sobriety and relapsed I was like whatever, I ruined my record of years sober so why stop now?
I sometimes think if I didnāt reset my counter after that beer I wouldnāt have given back in and binge drank for 4 years.
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I appreciate what others here have posted.
To reset or not to reset? That is the questionā¦ when I first joined this forum a few weeks ago, I was looking for support to quit drinking for good. I lasted 6 days and slipped, lapsed, relapsed, whatever people want to call it. I felt bad about it, but āshame corrodes the very part of you who believes you are capable of change,ā a wise woman once said. (Brene Brown)
All anybody can do is try to do their best. If counting days , then having to reset when you _______ brings you shame, thatās a problem.
On the other hand, what changes are you trying to make in your life?
Youāre the only one who knows what you need to do, it is indeed your own path. And you are a valuable member of this community no matter what you do 
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For me, and i really care about u Lauraā¦its not the resetting thats the issue here its the fact that you are around drinking still, yes its just one slip but its gonna be hard for you to not slip again when its around u so muchā¦il be totally honest i dont think id have gotten to 10 months if it had been like that for meā¦
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Im along time sober from booze if i smoked a joint or took some mind altering drug then id say that i had a slip , but sober is sober for me ,
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Thank you all the honesty is good, Iāve changed lots of things I do, and trying to do lots of work with myself mentally, yes it is around me, which yes needs to be addressed again I know, but the only person that can do it really I believe is myself, thank you so much all love and strength sent
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Thats very true but i kinda just thinkā¦why make it even harder for yourself by being around it if u can sort that part out somehow
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Well AA think thar every single drink is a relapse, but i think that maybe once doesnāt count if you donāt start drinking every day again, so i wouldnāt reset for occasional drink. If you can stop then 
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I would caution you on this advice. Read around, you will find many cautionary tales of failure that started with ājust 1 drinkā, or just every once in awhile.
If moderation worked for us, none of us would be here.
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Yes, unfortunately it usually doesnāt work 
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I have this recurring dream where I drink a few drinks before I remembered that I quit drinking. In my dream, I decide not to tell anyone and go on telling people Iām sober. People tell me how proud they are of me for not drinking anymore and I end up feeling this profound sense of guilt and shame; and the worst part is, I canāt tell anyone how guilty I feel lest the facade comes crashing down.
I wake up with this guilt and shame for it to melt away when I realize it was only a dream.
I think I am given these dreams to remind me that I need to be true to myself, and that, keeping secrets carries far more weight than the consequences of the truth.
I know resetting hurts, especially our pride, but if not now, then when?
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Iāve been a āresetterā maniac ā¦ā¦ had a drinkā¦reset ā¦ had severalā¦ didnāt resetā¦ felt guiltyā¦ reset ā¦, relapseā¦ finally decided this would be the last time I reset because I need to be serious about my alcoholism; my āassumed management of drinksāā¦ Iām on day 6 of truly being A/F ā¦ no resetting for me * may your journey, visions & hopes bring you to where you want to be * 
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I have done this before. I relapsed and didnāt go down my usual rabbit hole of horror and figured I was fine and cured and normal. It took a few ānormalā evenings before I was back at Mad Hatter status feeling wrecked and worthless again. Not taking responsibility for my relapse gave boozer me permission to think I had control. No. No no no no. No way. No. Not wanting to reset suggests those 23 days mean a lot to you. And you were honest with us about the 2 drinks. Accepting responsibility hurts, but the hurt is there because you know your sobriety matters.
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Love reading through these thankyou
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Good morning all hope everyone is well and staying strong, feeling positive happy monday all
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I quit drinking for a number of reasons. These reasons will remain valid for the rest of my life. Thereās simply no reason -not one- for me that justifies or validates having a drink.
Resetting or not in itself is insignificant. What has meaning is having that drink, or two, or 200, after learning about myself what I have learned. Itād be a total denial of all I learned through becoming sober. Itād be a total waste. Never again.
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This is your yourney, your commitment and your timer. Whatever works for you!
For me, zero is zero so I had to reset lots of times. Everytime the reset was a proces in accepting and learning. 
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