Last year i made Christmas dinner for my parents, myself and my daughter…i was only 4 months sober back then and wanted to stay busy…i asked if my home could be completely alcohol free and my parents happily agreed…il be 16 months sober this time around and im making dinner for my parents again…im still working on my sobriety every day but this time around ive said that if they would like to have a drink at my home its fine but that they would need to bring their own supply and then take away any left when they leave…i accept that drinking is part of our world and i dont want to keep hiding myself away from it, i fully accept that many people can drink normally but i cannot…what im trying to do for myself in small tentative steps is begin to normalise me being sober around others drinking…i want that to be my new normal…good move or wrong move? What you guys think?
I think that’s very awesome. Proud of your progress! 
merry Xmas!
You think Faugxh? Your opinion is very important to me…i know im still relatively early in sobriety but feel like im strong enough in it to start accepting it being in my life instead of hiding from it ynow?
If you feel like you personally can handle it then that’s fine and good. Should you start feeling otherwise then tell your parents and hopefully they would take the alcohol out.
Once I quit I was not triggered at all by others drinking.
It’s an individual thing.
Hugs.
Absolutely. I feel it’s the right thing to do IF one is ready for it and you are. awesome job! Now what’s for Xmas dinner I wanna know??
Thank you Alisa 
its kind of a safe bet aswell because my mother wouldnt let me touch a drop lol but do find her quite funny when she drinks too lol
Thank you dear 
so im making…roast turkey, roast pork and slow cooker beef brisket…roast tatties, mashed tatties, neeps (im fluent in scottish you know 
), carrots, peas, cauliflower, sage and onion stuffing, pigs in blankets, gravy, yorkshire puds, dessert is white forest roulade!
Get me!
I hope you post pics ! Yum on all of it. I googled neeps.
My my. Sounds extremely awesome. Especially the Scots!! Also made tatties n neeps a few years ago for Xmas dinner! Enjoy and have a great time!
It’s okay to have alcohol in your past and not something that’s forever trying to lure you in. Plus as you said you work hard on your sobriety every day. Proud of you. Have a beautiful and merry sober Christmas, brought to you by you!!
Only you can know your recovery. Personally, at over a year, I think you should be able to be around alcohol periodically. Your plan of them bringing their own and taking it home sounds like a wise compromise.
We do live in a world that’s highly saturated with alcohol. So you either learn to be around it for some extent or you live in fear of exposure to it all the time. You made the rules here: they bring their own and they don’t leave any behind. So you control the situation, you know about it in advance and can prepare yourself for it. There is a safety net in place, too: your mom wouldn’t let you anyway.
Don’t overthink it now, just roll with it
But we do have to have a serious conversation about those yorkshire puds here. I live really close to the Yorkshire border and my in-laws lived in the North Yorkshire dales. As a German who moved to England I had to learn this too:
Yorkshire puds belong on every sunday roast, however NEVER on a Christmas dinner, even if Christmas falls on a sunday!
Why? Because that’s how it is.
(Others might disagree)
That’s totally reasonable thing to ask for.
Thank you @Faugxh @Alisa @Misokatsu @HolySquid @Otiloas
A very merry Christmas to you all!!! 
@HolySquid the yorkshire puds…weve always had them with Christmas dinner…ive dieted for months and lost a stone through my hard work…i adore yorkshire puddings so i WILL be having them…its one of the highlights of my day…i stomp on those ‘rules’
It all seems fair and well. I see nothing wrong with it.
I would like to join this discussion although I know it’s a bit off topic, apologies for this. But me as a German who has a strong love for the British and their crazy traditions 
I never got the point about those Yorkshire puddings 
it just doesn’t make sense 
But I have to admit I miss my Christmas pudding this year. Christmas pudding is marvellous 
Have wonderful sober Christmas time everyone 
And I agree with what’s said already @Starlight14
I too think if you are feel like giving that offer to your parents then you are ready for it. You’ll be always in control of the situation and your mom wouldn’t let you drink anyway. That’s the biggest support, isn’t it?
Have a wonderful Christmas time with your family and enjoy your fabulous Christmas dinner, although I still don’t know what Yorkshire pudding is for
Enjoy!
Actually Yorkshire puddings should only go with beef. But we always had them with every roast, including Christmas dinner.
@HolySquid Sorry I think this is better directed at you.
To clarify…
Yorkshire puddings are crispy on top with just the right level of stodginess below to make them…(when added to gravy and a roast dinner) a food of the GODS…a culinary masterpiece that needs no explanation, i LOVE them.
I simply cannot have yorky puds dissed on my thread…
Wow. I clearly have not yet truly lived for I have never had Yorkshire pudding.
I think if you feel you are ready for this next step, and it is right for you and your recovery, then that is what is important.
Of course drinking exists in the world, but there is nothing wrong with keeping your own home an alcohol free zone either.
From what I gather of the situation, it seems to me that you will be okay. Just in case, though, do you have a plan for if it does present you with an unexpected issue?