Not sure if I’m answering this with the answer you are looking for. But my very best and closest friend completely turned his back on me when I started to get serious about getting clean and sober. We grew up together, and screw up together, we’ve always been like brother and sisters. I had no one just as close as he was. We started doing drugs together much to young, but we also stopped together. And turned to alcohol instead,with many half ass attempts to quit. And for me a lot of slip backs into my doc in the shape of dieting pills which he used to bash me a lot about. Finally I took the step to get serious help because I got tired of being the way I was. And with our history I was sure he was there to support me. Which he made clear that he wasn’t, he actually stopped any kind of contact,which was a hard hit. Eventually somewhere in the middle of it all he wanted to have a chat and I was worried because he usually was the one making us get wasted beyond all recognition. It all went well, we had some kind of heart to heart talk and he claimed that he was going to get sober with me. It only lasted a short while, we broke contact one again, not completely though because this guy works with my husband (small town hard to avoid) he started to skip work and after not so long he was back doing drugs, so my husband refused to work with him. We haven’t lived in the same town for decades me and this guy, but now he’s about to move back within walking distance from my house, in like two weeks. For what I know he’s still doing drugs and have started drinking again. We haven’t talked about it, last time we did after our heart to heart talk he didn’t wanted to come visit because I was still sober. When I relapsed he took it as it was all party on once again, and got upset when that wasn’t the case.
He is supposed to start work with my husband again after he moved back to here.
I wish he would stand by my side, like we’ve always done but it seems out of the question for now. I know it sounds like an ugly love story, but we’ve never been romantically involved. I do love him dearly but not in that way. We’re born just a week apart so seeing him this way is like watching by own bad side in the mirror doing all things I’m trying to avoid, with all the bad traits showing.
Time will tell how it all ends I guess.