Great job, Izzy!
Thanks guys!
Amazing. Well done
Congratulations!
I’ve had this app for a little less than a year. I’ve had good weeks, only three weeks ago I was almost 4 months porn and masturbation free. I’ve just been hitting wall after wall it feels like. Where I keep making bad choices that I don’t want to make anymore. The past few weeks i’m been relapsing. Like i’m good for a week and then I go back to it. I’ve made a plan, I’m trying to act on it. Still feeling a bit hopeless though. I know it sticks when it sticks like this is another step on the road to recovery. I’m just frustrated with myself.
I understand. I was spinning my wheels for a long time too. There’s no magic trick; for me it’s been about persistence and seeking guidance from people who have more experience than me. That has been very valuable. I joined a Sexaholics Anonymous group and from the members in that group (some of whom have 7+ years of sobriety) I have been fortunate to learn some of the mental and emotional strategies and experiences they have, which help them maintain their momentum, and keep learning and growing.
Keep searching and don’t give up. It can be done.
Progress not perfection. Keep at it. Just cos you slipped doesn’t mean you should spiral and give up.
Think back to before you were in recovery, how much acting out you were doing, and look how far you’ve come. I understand your frustration, but don’t let it get you down, now is the perfect time to crack on and get yourself back up to 4 months sober and beyond.
If it’s just a little slip it isn’t the end of the world, learn from it, and get back on the horse.
You can do it
One day at a time.
You need to be running from something (personally defined failure) and toward something (personally defined success), or you run into a few situations imo:
From nothing, toward something: goal is too hard, nihilism, give up.
From something toward nothing (success is undefined): anxiety because you are running from something and you don’t know if anything is actually working, so you relax the definition of failure (“relapse”) until you can find another plan to try.
From nothing toward nothing: not admitting something’s a problem, and not imagining the existence of a more desirable, worthwhile future either so things go on like normal, even if normal is riddled with lots of trouble.
Hey just checking in …. Still in the fight to be sober!!! Had several relapses since my last post, but still at it
310 days in recovery 3 days sober
Welcome back. 3 days and more to go, one at a time
A year ago, going 5 months without porn, cybersex, masturbation, and my other inner circle behaviours was unimaginable.
Making progress, one day at a time.
Great work everyone. I’m just a little over 70 days now. No sex, no porn, no masturbation.
Recently though I have been very sick with a fever and not been able to sleep well and the thoughts of relapsing are coming up more and more. I know it’s me being sick and tired and the body wanting its fix to feel a little better but I won’t give in.
Hopefully I can feel better soon. I rarely ever get sick. I don’t think I’ve been this sick in 10 years.
Need to keep going and hopefully in a couple of days the body heals and feels better.
Congratulations on 70 days! That’s progress. Rest up, get better, and soon you’ll be back to normal.
You’re right that acting out won’t help.
Congratulations on 5 months. Thanks for sharing with us.
Thanks Matt, I appreciate it. Planning on going to bed early tonight.
Hope all is well with you too.
500 days P free today
I still don’t feel like I’ve broken out on the other side or anything. I’m only 127 days O free. These are both PBs. I have been using Sober Time for over 5 years I would love to post a photo of my graph to show how tumultuous it’s been but new users can’t. I’d love to see any of yours.
Meaning relapse graph?
Yeah. You can look at it in the Sober Time app
Congrats. That is amazing. 127 days orgasm free. What was the last orgasm from? Just masturbation without porn? Thanks