Congrats on the 12 days. What’s been proving to help you this time around?
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Today was a rollercoaster. Relationshit at home. Busy at work. Being emotional is taxing. Ugh.
I’m glad Christmas is over soon. It’s so much baggage.
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Thanks for bringing the frustrations to light and not allowing them to build. I understand theb emotional taxing aspect too well… very draining.
Yes, indeed, I’ve never looked forward to it being over before until now.
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I have a daily routine which I try and do.
Morning prayer beside my counter.
Morning walk thinking back and reflecting.
Lunch time walk.
Some meetings.
Journaling
Then night time silent prayer before sleeping.
Thank you.
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Vent here and hang in there.
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Good deal. That’s some quality stuff right there
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Sorry to hear about that Olivia. What a shitstorm. Good thing it will be over soon. Hang in there - you will make it through.
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Thank you all. Today’s better, except for work, which is still very busy. Practising communication with Hubs LOL. I need a daily reminder that we can’t read each others’ thoughts, feelings or expectations 
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Oh good lord absolutely yes. This is something I am still learning with my wife. You are not alone there.
My wife and I have been seeing marriage and communication counsellors off and on since the 3rd year of our marriage (we are entering the 17th year of our marriage now). I can’t remember the exact number but over the years we’ve seen more than 5 counsellors. Our practice has been to reach out to one anytime we think that outside input would help. Our current counsellor we’ve been seeing for just over 3 years, and our experience with him has been so positive that we have been seeing him every couple of months just to check in, even if we don’t have a specific problem. He specializes in sex addiction recovery - that’s how I met him; he runs a clinic - and he does our couples counselling sessions online.
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I had to do the same thing accept the fact that i can never have social media on my phone, that’s not my lot in life. I had to get a therapist to help uncover why i was using porn to self sooth. It’s a constant struggle to not be self absorbed, but I’m fighting every day. I’m current with the wife, getting help, and using the tools to stay mindful.
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I also don’t have any social media, apart from this app. You’re not alone. I think they’re waste of time - that’s what they were designed for.
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I’m glad you’ve been able to get outside help! Finding a good and a suitable counsellor is priceless. I’ve already suggested that we’d see someone a couple of times. We’re working towards that slowly.
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I think that is a perfect definition of marriage in general. You will find what you need, I am sure.
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This just happened. I made a few Christmas pastries. They’re not complicated but still require some effort. I TOLD Hubs that 2 are for him and 2 for me.
He ate them all 
I’m speechless 
I give up, it’s time for bed anyway 
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Dang, that’s kind of grimey on his part.
I hope that you can work through the frustrations of what just took place.
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Oh that’s frustrating 
I have overindulged at times in my wife’s delicious baking. I have also at times eaten her share. I am still married to her, but it is not because I ate her shares of her delicious baking. I can only imagine I am still married to her because there must be some reason she married me that is not about how I exercise self-restraint in consuming pastries.
At the same time, I understand. You put work into those and you were looking forward to enjoying yours. I hope he does something to make up for it!
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Nothing about this makes it right for me to consume her share, or entitles me to any of her share. I am sharing this just for rigorous honesty in my communication.
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@Olivia seems that you made them really delicious 
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Haha, we talked about it a little later. He apologised and said he misunderstood. He thought I’ve already eaten mine. We laughed about it too. It’s not a big deal but it was hilarious that it occurred RIGHT AFTER I had posted about spousal communication 
@Matt Haha, it would be a flimsy base for a marriage, if it was all down to pastries.
@Bomdhil Yes I did, with extra marmalade
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Totally agree, communication is key and very essential.
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