OMG just when i thought I wasn’t quite dealing with enough. Boom Pre Menopause!!! bring it on !!! lol seriously help me . Staying sober and now this ?
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There is a good thread here
Women’s hormonal roller-coaster
I certainly understand where you are coming from. Getting sober and perimenopause have both been very strict lessons about boundaries, priorities, etc. Still learning.
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I feel like im losing my mind, the nicer my husband is the more i hate him lol and to top it off its a kids weekend ( we have my step son this weekend ) and another step son tomm, so thats lovley . Just keeps getting better and better
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All I need is a cold or flu on top of this all after this weekend ( as school just got back in ) that would be wonderful.
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Kids, step or not, are also hard to deal with when your own mental energy is low. My kids are currently teenagers (my girl is 12 actually but clearly ahead of her time 
) and that plus perimenopause is not fun.
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Peri was insanely challenging for awhile. All those hormones…..it was amazing once they were gone. But yeah, one hell of a slog. It gets better.
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I’m turning 40 in February and I just Googled perimenopause symptoms and OMG! I already have four of them! 
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Haha ohhh no . We should start a sober pre menopause club 
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I’m 51 and have been experiencing symptoms for about three years now. Currently getting hot flashes, and I’ve taken to carrying an electric fan around with me. And the hormonal pimples!
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Welcome to the hormonal shitshow 
I’m over it mostly but geeez, that were stressing 12 years.
Get rest, do whatever you need to stay mentally sane and physically mediocre ballanced. Tell people to leave you alone, be open about your symptoms, get the ME time you need at all costs, your social skills will be just overruled by hormon shenanigans 
Woman on fire is a good book, in the mentioned thread you find tons of posts, support and coping strategies.
Sending you calm, kind and balanced vibes
Come here, share, vent away. You are not alone 
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I am at the age where I am hearing a lot about peri-menapause and now you tell me that it can last for 12 years 
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My symptoms were very challenging the first several years….made worse because I was still drinking, I believe. The last few years, the moodiness was gone (along with my hormones), most of the blood (1 or 2 periods a year, drip drip drip), and no more achy joints. The night sweats were much less. The lingering one was insomnia, but eventually, post menopause, it has mostly lifted. Now just a bit hot at night sometimes. Tho post menopause also brings some challenges (that can be worked around), the intense emotional aspect is no more and of course, the bloat, cravings, blood is gone. It is a fascinating transition once you reach the other side and holds some hard fought wisdom I think. 
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Stop it! I was reading about it yesterday too. With my crazy mood swings right before/during my period and other things I’ve been noticing lately like restless/hot nights and hair shedding… I was stunned. It happened so suddenly too! I was fine earlier this year and early summer.
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I was just about to say the same thing . 12 years holy,
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Ummmm also sex drive is a gone . My husband has started a calander with x marks on the days to show me how rarely it happens now lol . I wasn’t sure if I should be offended or was it just to show me how I have changed the last few months . Either way he can use what god gave him , 2 different hands . Lol
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its called AA
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AA isn’t for me
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sorry man, this issue calls for: no uterus, no opinion 
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yes ladies, I started around 40 with shorter cycles = 2 more bleedings per year, horrible moodswings, massive decrease of capacity, weight gain, depression. The middle years were even more fun, irritable from zen-calm to furious in 1 fuck up, sweating, smell hallucinations (they were absolutely horrible 2 years ago, now they are mostly gone), later on a change in body odor and more weight gain and less energy, needy, grumpy, overly sensitive, just functioning, bleeding pauses of a few months.
I would have needed a lot more sex than I had (ex was rarely interested in the last years) and this lack made me very very grumpy and undermined my already low self-esteem.
I’m now 52, pray that bleedings stay away for good, lost 18 kg in the last 2 years and my mood is quite stable. Physical symptoms are mostly gone, a PMS or pseudo-hormonal hickup here and there.
I guess my ex can call himself lucky that I did not kill him for is absolute ignorance towards my upset hormones and bad physical and mental condition. One of the reasons he became ex.
Stay sober ladies, the hormonal shitshow is straining enough without adding liquid (or whatever DOC) poisonous stress to your body and mind.
And keep laughing, it helps coping
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Thank you I was scared to say something
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