I start today. I’m scared that I’m going to try to do without the wine that’s been my crutch for a loooooong time. Iv used it to numb my thoughts and avoid addressing somethings in my life that need changed. I’m at risk of losing my partner if I don’t do this. Reality check. All this time I’ve denied having a problem and just enjoyed my wine. That’s not true. I do have a problem. Can’t talk about how I’ve reached this place just yet. Still too ashamed. But I’m taking a timid first step. Never done the forum thing before either so double scary lol
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Welcome @Minigill. Congratulations for taking your first step into sobriety.
This is no ordinary forum. …This is the best place in the world to be!!! 
We all have our different experiences but we all share a common understanding of the battles we face when quitting alcohol.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions and share what’s on your mind.
We are all here for you! 
And we’re all in this together 
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Thank you. X
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Nothing be ashamed here, non-judgemental, friendly group of people that know exactly what your going through.
Vent, post, ask questions and look for advice.
Large group of people with diverse backgrounds, techniques to fight off the Wine Witch and Beer Badger.
Good Luck on your journey we can’t walk the path with you, but we can tell you where the pitfalls are.
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Welcome and well done 
All this time I’ve denied having a problem and just enjoyed my wine…
I could have written this post myself! The only difference being, I lost my partner, he got to the end of a rather long tether.
Make a real go at this difficult journey. Remember though you are doing it for you. The good thing is that your nearest and dearest will reap the benefits .
This forum has been massively helpful to me. We need all the support we can get! 
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Thanks Sally I really have been fooling myself… But no one else!! Want to do this for me. You’re right about that 
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Haha, the wine witch!!! I like it @Shattered_dreams 
She had a grip of me and I was fighting with her daily @Minigill. I’d consume a half to a bottle of wine an evening with a g&t or two and a whisky nightcap thrown in.
I’m on my 9th day sober.
This community has helped me enormously - I’ve sat and browsed through the posts and been inspired and felt supported - I hope you do to. You are not alone 
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Bottle of wine a night (sure that’s normal… everyone does it… It doesn’t effect me… Blah blah) becoming two bottles or whatever else was in house because one not enough any more 
Getting to stage of planning around wine. In from work at four and bottle opened. Thought I was so clever no one knew. So horrified when partner told me he knew as soon as I answered the phone and all he wanted to do was hang up 
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hugs no rush in sharing your story, coming here is already a courageous step towards a better life! I guess we all have a lot of shame regarding our drinking, and done some bad stuff. Important thing is, you want to change. And the good news is, you CAN change. hope to see you around!
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Welcome you found the perfect place to help you…and don’t be ashamed I’m sure we’ve all been in the same boat
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Thank you so much x
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Welcome welcome welcome!! 
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Seriously, are you just writing my story?!
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Lol that’s so reassuring!! X
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Welcome,
9 days in for me.
Wine was my crutch and also almost lost my partner. Now working hard to deal with my own demons that wine used to help me avoid!
You got this!!
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I have used it for so long to numb my brain so I didn’t have time or space to think about stuff. I also work til I drop because I don’t know how to relax and just chill… It’s my biggest fear because that’s when my thoughts take over. I envy people who curl up on sofa with a cuppa and TV… Argh my worst nightmare!! Lol wot a nutter 
I need to stop running away from what I can’t face and deal with it!
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Wow we could be twins, I have the same problem which makes the evenings the toughest. One thing I have started doing is journaling my thoughts, it’s hard some time for me to put on paper but the more I did the more it clears the chaos in my head.
I do know that since I have stopped drinking I feel happier (even with my struggles)
Because I see how much I have used wine to cover the root problems.
Plus not having a hang over or regrets then next day make it worth everything😄
Keep talking and expressing yourself, I really have used this app all day to just read and use for support also.
“He who says he can and he who says he can’t are both usually right”
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