So 18 hours ago was the last time I used and I’ve made the decision to stop now so no more. Maybe I should of planned it better but I prefer it this way as I think if it’s planned I have time to talk myself out of it. I know I need to do it but it’s hard. Any advice?
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I had to change pretty much everything. Who I hung out with. Where i hung out.
I spent a lot of time here.
I had to focus on recovery 
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Welcome to the community! Glad you found this place!
Look around, you can find very good advice here. One you will often encounter is: Ask yourself what your triggers are and avoid them strictly.
Another one: find coping skills you can use if cravings are hitting.
Feel free to reach out anytime!
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Glad you’re here!
Staying busy and communicating with like minded people are good things to try while first getting sober!
Reach out if you need support, plenty of people here that would be willing to listen!
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Prepare yourself, prepare yourself for cravings to come. What to do when they occur to avoid a relapse…So in my opinion make a plan 
Have you read this one: Advice for the Newcomer and Constant Relapser ore Your #1 tip for sobriety from people with long term sobriety and this thread is a good read as well What's YOUR plan?
I had my share of relapses in the past. Even one after 5 years of sober time. One thing I’ve learned is that I have to have my guards up all the time and be prepared. That and this place kept me sober for more then 7 years now. It’s hard work sometimes, but worth it.
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There’s always going to be this urge of “just one more. Just one more” is planning for the future a way of getting “just one more?”
The addictive voice will say anything to feed itself, so hopefully you can recognise this and not keep feeding it with the “just one more” especially if it is disguised as “planning”
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Badger describes early “sobriety” aptly with the “just one more” example.
If one truly puts in the work, urges and thoughts to use will simply go away after a bit of time not using. If we are serious enough about the work we put into straightening out our lives, we eventually see the reality of how booze and drugs ruled our thoughts, feelings and actions.
Read the Big Book pages and the paragraphs AFTER “how it works”. It talks about how urges and thoughts of using will disappear from our minds if we commit to a strong program of personal improvement.
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@Kellyj89 Hi Kelly, welcome to the best recovery app in the universe 
were extremely glad to have you with us 
All the previous posts have given you fantastic advice and info, and they all echo one thought, come hear and talk, come here and read & come here to ask for help
We’re many with many different additions, but all addictions have the same things in common 
They lie to you, they tell you one won’t hurt and they tell you that they are the only thing that can take away the pain. It’s all total and utter bollocks 
My doc was alcohol and it really fucked with my life, my head and my relationships.
The only way out for me and to keep me alive was a structured recovery program, in my case AA
This app is the best out there, but nothing beats going to a f2f meeting and hooking up with fellow addicts, who have one thing in common they want, need and have to recover 
You will make new friends and will be able to draw on their experience, strength and hope to help you navigate your recovery
Take care, be strong and don’t pick up.
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Hey 
it’s my 5th day here and honestly, just checking in here and speaking to people who experience the same challenges makes it so much easier. You’ve already done really well so far, the first steps are always the trickiest but you’ve already come so far, well done x
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