For me this is the big thing that is rarely discussed. The amount of people across the world who are forced into the sex undustry
via kidnapping or ‘forced Labour’ is scary. More importantly the amount of kids taken from families at a young age is heart breaking.
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Such a crazy story! My wife has read books on it, watched documentaries etc. All of it. It’s a prime example of how nothing good and wholesome can ever come from pornography. I will argue that to my death.
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Ugh… couldn’t finish that last one. Totally sick what the porn industry has devolved into. It’s a downward spiral.
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Came across a 3 part docu-series on a young woman who was exploited from a young age through pornography, sexual abuse and was even sold to sex-buyers and traffickers. The sickness must stop. Send those people who use others for financial gain or for their own sick perversions to the gallows already! Honestly…
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Tell me your thoughts!
I feel for the young minds that are deceived to think they can find personal discovery, wealth and satisfaction in giving themselves over to this industry. I firmly believe that all there is to find is instead, self-loathing, vice and corruption. It’s so sad. I am also partly responsible for consuming and in so doing, building this disgusting industry.
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Never knew this thread existed. So glad it popped up again.
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Lol. To be fair, It hasn’t been posted in for the last 2 years.
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Thank u for bringing awareness to this. I found it interested and can relate in a sense. When he talks about whether it’s trafficking or consensual… I came across this topic alot while I was in prostitution. Bcuz I “worked for myself”, I never had someone who did traffick me. Thankfully I managed to escape that… but it was a close call when I ran into a man who wanted to pimp me out. He ended up in jail shortly after so that never came to reality thank God. So bcuz I guess I “chose” that lifestyle, many Johns thot everything was consensual. When it wasn’t. Often time abuse would happen when I would lay down the “rules” and they would be abusive thinking that bcuz they paid for my services, they could do whatever and say whatever they wanted. This isn’t so. Early on in the trade, I was very “soft” and after a few bad dates I learned very quickly that I had to be alot tougher and alot more firm and alot more choosy. I didn’t obviously want to end up as a drug addicted prostitute. At the age of 16 I was exploited by older men who used the fact that I was a drug addict and vulnerable, to their advantage. And so when ur video talks about the vulnerable… ya I can see that. I wasn’t well in many ways. And then I remember the progression from being exploited at 16, to trading sexual acts for drugs, to eventually entering the trade in my early 20s as a “business” and making money. The effects of being exploited at a young age set the stage so to speak for prostitution. It’s was tough for me to get out. It was as addicting as drugs. And **definitly ** not worth the fast money and “attention”. U lose so much more than anything u could actually get from that. And when I got out of it with the help of many supports and I spoke at John School to a bunch of men who got caught, it was interesting to see the other side of why they were involved in picking up women. Anyway sorry for blabbing it just made me think of how things progressed for me in the past. Thanks for sharing and bringing awareness to this 
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Thank you for sharing. I’m curious what the Johns said about why they were out there picking up women? I assume they had their own problems?
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Sooo most often there were 6 general reasons why men would come to see me in the past(I can only speak for myself as Idk what other woken experience):
- Men that had families and wives and wanted to experience sexual things that their wives wouldn’t do. Sometimes I had some very strange fetishes brought up.
- For companionship… sort of to be like gf material, to go to concerts, shows, for a date, to talk, go to dinner etc … I was even at times a “counsellor” for their problems
- Men that had trouble in the intimacy department and were sort of “alone” alot, didn’t really know how to interact with woman on a daily basis
- Those in high up positions, made alot of money and in my opinion tended to have huge egos or issues with control
- The men that thought they could “save” me, provide for me, help me to get out of the trade yet was still using my services… strange right?
- And then men that would be travelling or didn’t have time to meet women due to having a busy work life. So they just paid for services.
I didn’t always have mean men and abusive men that came to me. Some johns (who became my regulars) actually were very nice and treated me like a queen. But they did have their own issues. Often times my regulars would become more comfortable with our dates and they would try to expand on their fantasies and sometimes would try things that would get abit too risky. And oddly enough the men who had alot of money were the most mean and rude and would try to rip me off or bargain with me. And there is no set average age or background or social status that tends to use those types of services. It is such a wide range. It’s very complex with how the mind works on both sides.
I do know tho that a majority had said that they thot woman who did that line of work, enjoyed it and chose it. But the reality is, is that most don’t actually enjoy it. I know alot of women from back home… my “wifey” fir example she is out of the trade too but she literally did it to survive. Mine was alot more due to addiction and maybe abit for survival I’d say 
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You’re not blabbing and no need to be sorry! I have so much respect for you being open about your experiences in the trade. Every time you share is valuable. I guess many can’t do that bc of the shame. Yet, people need to hear the truth about sex industry. So thank you.
This. So ignorant and selfish. Makes me furious.
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Awe ur welcome 
i dont mind sharing my experiences. I do try to not get too detailed or anything. It never used to be easy tho. To be honest the only reason why i can talk about it today is bcuz of the supports in my past. Back home there was an actual support group specifically for women who were wanting to exit. We would sit in a group setting every Wed. We would smudge and drum before group (the Aboriginal culture… this is were I learned how to practice the culture) and then we would have group and share about things. It was hard at 1st talking about it and now it’s become easier. But ur right tho it isn’t spoken alot about. And part of the reason I am open about it is bcuz it does happen more often then people like to admit I think and i feel like probably many people (men and women) keep it a secret bcuz of that shame. The only way I was able to somewhat start healing (I still have alot of healing to do around this area still) is bcuz I talk about it. I want people to know they aren’t alone.
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Feel free to post on this thread as much as you want! I value your messages, because it is a reflection of everything that I’ve shared. The industry is poisoned. There’s no part of it that can be done without extreme personal sacrifice and trauma.
I think it is also beneficial to the men on the forum to hear your experience. A lot of men PMO/Sex Addicts see the damage it’s doing to themselves. They want to get sober for selfish reasons. There has to be a degree of that. But, at some point we have to look outside ourselves and recognize the damage we have done to others. This is part of every program I’ve seen. I think you’re helping us see that side of addiction in ourselves.
Not trying to minimize your own experiences by selfishly claiming them as my own. There’s always two sides to a coin, ya know?
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I really appreciate u saying all this. Ur post absolutely made me feel so welcoming and free to express myself and I appreciate that so much! There is absolutely 2 sides… ur right! I think that no matter what stage we are in, in our healing there tends to be that intial selfish reason why we want the help… and then we begin to see how our actions effected others. I often wpuld talk about the johns and their part of it and the damage they caused… but to be honest, I was extremely selfish when I was “working”. I wasnt a nice person on the inside even tho on the outside I portrayed as a very diff woman (as someone who cared and enjoyed what I was doing). When I saw men, I literally saw dollar signs… and I acted like I cared about their problems when they would open up to me about what was going on in their lives. All they wanted was literally support and affection from the opposite sex and often times I just acted like I cared. It bugs me to say this bcuz im not like that today. I truly genuinely care about people. I was sooo selfish back then. I would sometimes start to care or develop fondness for certain men but once I realized I was doing this, I would shut down my feelings n thots real quick. It wasn’t safe to be vulnerable and full of emotion and to care. It just wasn’t. And I often wish I could actually make amends to some of them. One of my regulars would rent a hotel room and he would spend alot of money. He was married with a woman for quite some time… they were like high achool sweethearts and one of the last times I saw him for a date before I left for calgary, he was super depressed and told me his wife left him bcuz he was “spending too many nights out and spending money that was accounted for”. I felt so responsible. I mean I know it was him that chose to contact me but still. Or i remember going into this one mans house… seeing the Xmas tree up with all the gifts for his kids and seeing the photos of his wife and kids on the wall. I was sooo disgusted with myself. And disgusted with humans in general. I have never made those amends and honestly I don’t think it would be right to do so. If they knew about me and approached me I absolutely would have made amends. But since they don’t know me, it would probably cause more damage to make an amend, especially if they didn’t suspect a thing. I have even robbed men when I felt they were trying to rip me off. Both parties werent well. The whole situation is unhealthy and toxic. What I’m trying to say is that there is 2 sides. And often times men are portrayed as the bad guy when it comes to prostitution, but the women aren’t that great either (I’m not trying to justify behavior but to show that there are 2 sides). And I can only speak for myself… but I wasn’t the nicest person. I see my faults and I see how sick I was too. And I’m not sure how to heal around that. Anyway, uv given me some things to think about. And I appreciate that so much!
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You make a lot of great points. Both parties are sick. We cannot judge and hate on anyone. The more that I’ve studied and learned over the years, the more empathetic I am to human kind. The person that murders is a victim as well. It takes trauma and mental sabotage over the course of a long time to bring someone to such a violent act. The people who abuse drugs and alcohol are often products of their environment, or they cannot find a way to process what life has handed them. We are all sick in mind and body, a broken people.
This is actually why I’m as religious as I am. I believe that we can all become more than what we are. We each have sparks of divine potential. I can’t judge anyone, because I don’t know their experiences and life that brought them to their current place in life.
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I just think everyone has a story. The women u do that for work and the men who want it. We all never grew up thinking we were going to engage in stuff like that. And it’s human nature to want acceptance and love and affection and to build a bond with others. And I dont hate a single person I was with… and I dont hate myself for what i did… I just do what I can to educate both men and women based on my experiences in hopes that it opens eyes to maybe make a difference in their lives 
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Absolutely I love this!!! Great comment! I actually have gotten some healing from this yo be honest… Very unexpected today. Wow just letting go of some that anger that I’ve held onto… bcuz in reality we are/were all unwell and even tho the actions are not justified for what happened, it does show that the person doing the hurting is unwell also. We aren’t born to hurt people. Those things are taught to us over time thru experiences and environment and trauma etc. I have 1 experience in particular from the trade that happened where I have literally held onto anger. Its been about idk… 9 years ago and its been a hard road to let that go. And I’m relating what u said to that experience from those men and Idk… I sort of feel like I’m seeing things from a diff perspective. It wasn’t right what happened but by almost understanding, I feel like the power of that situation has lost its hold on me just abit. Hmmm
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