I agree with everyone in regards to getting back in therapy bro. Shame is so insidious and tells us horrible lies about ourselves. Believe me , I haven’t been a fan of myself either but I just finished my 4th week of therapy and it’s been f*ing liberating for real. Don’t believe the bullshit your head is telling you, do what my therapist told me to do and tell the shame voice to "fk off" lol. You’re going to be fine man just put the work in. Good job staying sober that’s awesome and you’re worth it 
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Being attractive is about mindset, it’s not about your physical appearance. When you decide and look for your own beauty, within and without, you will see it. It IS there, but as long as you believe and tell yourself it’s not, you’ll never see it. Trial, even just for a little while, telling yourself that you ARE good looking, that there are things you love and appreciate about yourself, things that make you YOU. You are unique and that is a blessing. Once you start to own who you are, confidence will continue to build. Stop those hurtful negative thoughts you’re having about yourself in their tracks. When you think an unkind thought, immediately catch it and tell yourself the opposite. Even if you don’t believe it, do it anyway, and the more you do it the more you’ll start to see and feel the truth in it. No one can tell you how to be and feel, except for yourself, you have that power. Love yourself as much as you love others, for you deserve it. When you start to love and value yourself for who you are and how you look, you will be a shining light, so bright and full of joy. It all starts with a single decision. To give something different a try, start with your thoughts about yourself and your perspective on ‘beauty’. Self-esteem starts with Self-compassion and some loving kindness towards ourselves 
and sober life = our best life, we know that, for sure! Always choose sober and the rest of the work gets clearer and a lil easier 
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Thanks to everybody!
I just found an awesome book called “The Upward Spiral”, by Alex Korb, PhD. It goes into great detail about how different subsections of our brains co-ordinate to create our moods and habits. It is unavoidably technical in many places, but is filled with simple exercises to help you rearrange your thinking.
Yes, it recommends affirmations. I’ve been self-conscious about affirmations because:
But it won’t hurt to try! 
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That just made me lol, 
That book sounds great! I might check it out.
I feel your pain about physical attractiveness. I am 71 years old and totally losing any looks i had but i am working my self-esteem. I think education and caring about others with your heart is more important!! It is not easy!! Not everyone is going to like you!! That’s the most important aspect i am working on. 
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