I hope this helps you guys and girls. We will get done with this thing! Keep fighting!
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4 days sober for M and Porn. Sometimes I feel like I canāt beat this problemā¦ (bad choice of words).I just have this monkey on my backā¦ It gives me anxiety and makes me feel so bad and fucked up about my self and how stupid I am. Why canāt I quit this for good.
This addiction if cunning, baffling and powerful!
You can. But itās never going to happen with that attitude. If you believe youāre stupid, youāll do stupid things. If you keep asking āwhy canāt I?ā Your mind will give you a list of reasons why you canāt. If you feel you deserve punishment then you will find a way to punish yourself.
Think of all the ways you are not stupid. Ask āhow can I do better next time?ā āWhat do I need to changeā?
Self punishment is not the answer. You are worthy of sobriety! You deserve a better life.
This advice is amazing and rings so true when I look at my journey.
Good afternoon friend. I also want to get rid of this crap that has already done me so much harm. This curse (it has no other name) leads us to lose respect for women, ourselves, we end up in depressing situations and addiction becomes more harmful when our creativity becomes diabolical. Meditation, good thoughts and a lot of strength seems the way.
Iām in the same situation. A cruel struggle: shame, regret in the next second, lack of concentration, lack of focus on work, women turned into object, without the least respect. I really want to get out of this life in the name of God! Go ahead, my friend.
You are amongst those who seek the same common goal. Iām rolling on day five from a previous relapse. Seems to get easier. Try the book āyour brain on pornā and this app called Headspace has meditation for balanceā¦ It tends to help me.
Well that happened quicker than expected. I got a week alreadyā¦
Time flys when youāre having fun!
Coming up on day 9 and I am getting the pains.
Iāve been there before. If you can push through it, they will subside. Theyāll return later, but just keep plugging and the cravings get weaker and shorter.
Whatever you do, donāt sit around home by yourself trying to battle this thing on your head. Get out, stay busy, and youāll stay sober. Stay away from things you know to be triggers. The addiction will tell you, āJust go look at this one thing, itās not really porn, so it doesnāt count.ā Itās a lie and a trap. You know how hard it is to stop once you start.
Hope you have a good day.
Yea I definitely knowā¦ It always gets bad around these days. Sad to say Iām already by myself. I just make sure I check in here.
Do you have any means by which to put yourself around other people right now?
Yeah, get busy or get up and leave.
Right at the moment no. Iām coolā¦ I took a nap and now Iām going back to a public area.
I am right there with you. It has been 8 days for me. I donāt really like counting the days. It makes me feel like thereās is some end goal. So I think that is where the one day at a time comes in.
I have noticed that keeping busy and trying to be more social helps. Itās hard sometimes because I think we are use to living in the shadows.
@Newpath30 It is hard sometimes to get up and get out and I found that it helps to have a dog or two to help me with that. Just getting off the couch to go outside and see the world beyond my computer screen is enough to break the trance of addictive thinking. I also have made friends in my recovery group and reach out to them. Today I am going to play disc golf with a friend and my brother. That loneliness for me is a sure fire trigger, and I have to get the hell up and be around other people to fight it. Have a great day you guys!