My big brother is my best friend. We’re only 1 year and 10 days apart. We always drank together and unfortunately did cocaine together as well. When I told him I was getting help and getting sober he was so happy for me but doesn’t talk to me as much… I want to reach out and help him but if he was ready he’d reach out. I just don’t want to lose my best friend. He is much harder into the drug than I was… and I can never judge him. Just wish we could be on this path to recovery together. My dad is a recovering alcoholic and drug user, he’s coming up on 22 years sober! So I just feel like my brother and I failed him… and he’s so worried about us, and I just wish both my brother and I could make him proud…
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It’s so hard when our family struggles with the addiction demon too. It’s heartbreaking - I feel for you.
The www.Al-Anon.org and www.Nar-Anon.org programs are designed for exactly this: family relationships with people in addiction. Maybe you can check them out?
Eric has a thread about family members with addiction too. He shares his story; you may find some overlap there:
Are you affected by a loved one who is an addict?
Don’t give up. It is a journey and it is difficult to know what will happen - life is naturally unpredictable - but I promise if you stick with it you’ll find help with this.
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Welcome to the forum, Kayla. Sorry to hear about your brother. It’s very painful to watch our loved ones suffer with addiction. I had a really hard time watching my husband carry on after I got clean and sober. There was absolutely nothing I could do but lead by example. He had to want it for himself, not for me or our daughter. Thankfully, he finally found sobriety but it took a really long time. Be patient and keep doing what you’re doing. You’ve planted the seed. Now keep watering it by living you best sober life and maybe it will grow and flourish.
Heres a thread you may find helpful.
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