So where is the miraculous middle ground between enduring and leaving? I mean the house is entirely mine, the dogs are mine. If I decide to stop hurting myself then they will basically be homeless. And yes that entire last sentence is a gigantic red flag for enabling 
If they relapse, I’m afraid that I’d relapse with them. If I did, and that’s a big IF, date a recovering alcoholic she would have to be as serious about her recovery as I am.
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Al-Anon is a great place to talk about these things. You don’t need to have an HP or be into the steps. Take what is useful and leave the rest. There is also a thread on here for a book discussion of “codependent no more”, which might interest you.
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That makes a lot of sense, I would be worried about that too, I agree they would definitely have to be just as serious as I am about sobriety.
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But you don’t need to stay now because of what you did in the past. You are a different person now and see the situation with a new set of eyes.
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