Thanks for this. Your comment made me feel seen and I appreciate you! It’s been wonderful to be on this journey with you.
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Congratulations @RosaCanDo !
So happy for you with this two year anniversary!
Lots going on with your emotions and in your home!
I’m glad that your family is there and I hope that that’s making for a good celebration all in all. Looks like a very nice time.
Strong you are with your toolbox with you, thanks too for clueing me in to what FOMO stands for in your post. Proud of you for recognizing in yourself where and when you’re weak and doing something about it instead of doing what you really most likely don’t want.
Something for your pocket or the tabletop to commemorate this sober road you’re on, navigating ODAAT.
Big congrats! xxx
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Happy 2 years @RosaCanDo so greatful to share this journey with you. I appreciate your service to this forum behind the scenes and especially on the foodie thread.
Keep working your beautiful recovery
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@RosaCanDo , congratulations on those c two years! Big celebration for you, and lots of sober energy to keep at it. Thanks for being here and sharing so much. I don’t think there was ever a post from you that I didn’t enjoy or got a valuable take-away from. You are an inspiration.
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I’ve been in that situation before. it’s HORRENDOUS! I was pregnant and my mum died. she was 42. And she always wanted to be a grandma and lavish me. she knew i was pregnant - she was the first one we told. 4 weeks later she was gone. careful of words it sucks but still. my mum wasn’t poorly she just went. i wasn’t even at my 12 week scan when she “left us” the pic did go in her coffin tho. my LG is 7 now; never met her grandma but knows who she is. You have to keep their memory alive in your brain and hearts dispite the pain hun. x sending ya love x
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Thank you beautiful people for your congrats @Alisa @Cjp @Merryshoes ! I’m grateful to have you all here alongside me on this path.
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@jimjam @ARN3120 thank you both for your kind words. Life has changed so much since I made that first post on this thread in August of 2020, in fact it feels like a lifetime ago. I’ve reached 2 years free of binging on alcohol and self medicating, numbing, and hiding from life’s woes. Life still has its peaks and valleys (putting it mildly) but I have worked hard to learn how to live through and with them. I’m glad you’re here and part of this community and hope you continue to stay engaged for your own recoveries, as well. 
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Not sure how i missed that or if i did??? I’m any case congratulations on 2 years my friend 
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Thanks, man! It’s hard to keep up around here sometimes! 
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I am so sorry this happened to you. It’s traumatic to lose people so suddenly.
You’re absolutely right about this and to honor them by living life as well as you can. That’s a great motivation to be clean and sober if I ever heard one!
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It’s been foundational to my sobriety and overall wellness journey to be an active member here. I hope you continue coming back and joining in!
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@RosaCanDo … I hope I congratulated you on your two amazing years. If not…congratulations now. You have been a solid on this site since I joined three years ago. I feel like I should know this…but do you use other resources other than this forum? I’m at a bit of a crossroad and am needing “more”. Love to know what others who I respect do for continued success.
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Thanks for the congrats. I think what has helped me most is addressing my mental health, primarily anxiety but also depressive tendencies. I’ve done some therapy in the past, both online and in person and I have been thinking of looking for a therapist again. I tried meds but didn’t have a great experience, but that’s just me. What has helped me the most has been daily journaling and general self reflection. I read books that help me think about the kind of life I want to lead and I stay connected to people that help me, too. It’s been a fairly isolated life for me the last few years. I don’t work, don’t have kids and with COVID risks letting up I still don’t get out much. We moved where I live about a year before the pandemic hit. I used to have a friend group that was solid when I lived in Arizona and it wasn’t all drinking/partying focused, but it is hard to make friends as an adult in a new smallish town. So a lot of introspection, which has always been my game to be honest, my natural base I think before I started partying too hard. That’s why this community has helped me so much to feel less alone in the struggle. It’s been really my number one go to. And the connections and friends I’ve made here that I text with almost daily.
I guess I would say I’ve tried everything (I could think of) once and stuck with what helped. I listened in and participated in zoom AA meetings in England! I didn’t stay with that as I didn’t see it working for me. And generally trying to live the life I want to live has been my focus. Not avoiding, not numbing, and figuring out how to deal with the hard things in life. Pain management has been huge, also, dealing with migraines. I hope this helps, but we are all unique. I’d say keep trying anything and everything and keep that tool box full. What doesn’t help today could help tomorrow. You’re doing great, keep at it and don’t be afraid to try something new that sparks your interest.
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Thanks so much for that terrific feedback. Certainly shows that everyone’s road to sobriety, although similar in some ways, is personal and different. I’ve done therapy, Women for Sobriety, some AA, and this forum. You seem to have done much self reflection and that has worked for you. I need/want the same. I need structure and that’s why I was thinking AA. Still pondering…Over the weekend we were off the grid, visiting family with lousy internet connectivity…I tried to sit with myself with minimal success. Drat!
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