Starting over, again…

Any advice will help. Less than 24 hours for me.

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It is good you are here, welcome! You will get lots of good help here. Read around and continue to reach out. Making the decision to not drink is great. You will get help and suggestions on how to help yourself. Read a lot here. Stay here…

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First 24h hard do you have withdrawals? If yes go straight to the hospital then u will have no other no access to alchohol and they will help u temporary to get rid of the pain will be much easier next day I did this once they gave me only one dose medication that was enough next day a had shit sleep but 50% less pain if withdrawals severe I would advice invest in medical detox I did this too coast me 1000£ but was worth every penny sounds a lot but trust me when u get sober u think why I didn’t do this earlier
If u don’t feel that bad stay indoors so there is no temptation to buy a drink a lot of Netflix take away food and talk to family or friends don’t hide it as a secret u will be surprised people do come and help you don’t suffer by yourself . I asked my partner to stay in bed with me for all day Netflix and food helped me those first 24h best of luck

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Hi Lissete welcome to the forum :slight_smile:
I’ve attached a link to a super helpful thread. It has loads of tips, support and advice

Hope to see you regularly on the forum :raised_hands:

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I believe medical detox is the best option and best investment I have done

Same here. Let’s be recovery twins :blush:
How are you feeling? I’ve just stopped after a 4 day binge and I feel awful. I’m shaking and everything i cant wait for this day to be over.

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Welcome Lissy. Well done for choosing sobriety.
Here’s a list of tips I’ve put together with the help of other friends on this path. Take from it anything that helps. Above all, stay here…we will help you. You’re in our boat now…the same boat we’re all in. Hope this helps:

1 Read Alcohol Explained by William Porter (you can get audio version from audible)
2 Go to as many aa meetings as you can. Listen, share if you feel OK to, engage, get phone numbers
3 Get busy. Housework, exercise, new hobby, gardening, baking, YouTube rapping, movies…anything. Don’t leave yourself any free time.
4 Be honest with yourself. Why are you stopping, how do you feel…
5 Read Alcohol Explained 2
6 stick to your decision to quit and never doubt or question it. You got it right.
7 If you do ever wobble or get tempted, ask yourself one simple question… What will it add? Will it make a good situation better? Will it make a bad situation better. My years of frequent horrid experiences have shown for me, the answer is it adds nothing and makes nothing better.
8 Stay here, keep reaching out, use your peers’ support and experience
9 help others as soon as you feel you can, even in the very early days. I’m only 13 days and honestly it’s helping me to help you. I can reread my advice to you and then reapply it to my own situation
10 Pray. Doesn’t matter if your not religious or don’t know who or what you’re praying to - I don’t, I could be praying to myself. But I’ve found over the past fortnight that getting on my knees, asking (out loud) for strength, asking for a sober day and then giving thanks for that strength and sobriety has felt extremely empowering.
EDIT: 11-14 thank you to Facebook friends:

11 Look for the fun in the journey!
12 Every day pay attention to what is improving. Even the little things, like being able to remember someone’s name after being introduced.
13. Make self care a priority; find the things that you can do to make yourself feel pampered and that will destress you in a healthy way.
14. Learn to identify and change your negative self talk.

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Also to say, 1st few days, go easy on yourself and be kind to yourself. Lay down your bagful of have to’s/got to’s/need to’s if you can. Give yourself one thing to do…be sober, today. And tomorrow, one thing, be sober. Eat when you can, sleep when you can, drink water, have a bath, walk, breathe. Stay here, reach out, listen, talk.

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Just stick with us, trust in your eventual success and stay strong @Lissy0613! :wink: You were born free, clean and positive, and that is something to treasure… :heart: You always were the key to a better life, and reaching out here proves you are more than capable and worthy of change and growth! You are NOT your addictions or problems! Your short and lucky spark of existence here with us in this life and world has so much more in store for you once you consciously learn to control where you want your life to head… Addictions often serve as distractions from unhealthy lifestyles or the subconscious fear of vulnerability. Let go of that which hurts you, and move on into an ever better future we all have it within us to manifest! Who are you? Who and where would your ideal potential self realistically be…? What are you doing one day at a time to get there? ALWAYS love yourself whoever and wherever you are for a start! :blush:

Browse this app as much as you need/like, it really can do you a world of good just to read or post, and stay mindful…!

Browse extensively on youtube and/or the internet what to do in your specific shoes? How to improve/progress? Tips/advise?

Stop hating yourself, self-sabotaging and procrastinating! All counterproductive negativity, pessimism, doubt etc in your life can go f*ck right off and doesn’t deserve a place in your world… You are just perfect Lissete! It’s your lifestyle which needs your help.

Try to replace the initial sobriety ‘void’ with new, healthy and productive things! Any loneliness, boredom, anxiety etc you may start to feel, often just reflects what your addiction/problem was trying to cover up… What could or do you enjoy in life? Make a list of all the potential things available to you which make (or will make) the real world 100× more worthwhile to you? Nobody and nothing can take your life and happiness away from you in the end, so go out there and enjoy or discover what this short life is all about!

Try to be honest with yourself and others my friend. As honestly kind of difficult as that feels to many people, it will come in time with your growing maturity. Life is what it is, there’s no bullshitting, nor room to hide. Open up… Growth means embracing change, facing fear, and being as genuine as you can be! You have nothing to fear from honesty except the fear of it…

Make sure you stay hygienic and tidy, attain/maintain a healthy diet, get enough sleep, drink enough water, do enough exercise, stay occupied with plentiful things to enjoy and learn (what we’re here for!), put plentiful time aside to get outdoors and take in nature, encourage mindfulness and consciousness in your life (meditation can be liberating!), always persist in caring and trying, and give yourself, your sobriety (one day at a time) and your grateful future a chance!

Glad you reached out…! :hugs:

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Simple try a meeting wish you well

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Loved your posts buddy, wise words my friend :v::wink:

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Ditto! Your views, opinions, experience + mine + his + hers + their’s…it all adds upto huge…and, hopefully, hugely helpful.

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I feel mostly guilt. Guilt that I can’t stop and have to go through this all over again. Longest I’ve stayed alcohol free Is 10 days. Luckily, I’m not feeling horrible withdrawals, just a bit sweaty.

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Nothing horrible. Just a bit sweaty and a headache. I’ve never sought medical help. Definitely thinking about that this time. Maybe medication to help stay away from the alcohol. Netflix for me today, work tomorrow.

Thank you so much. This really helps me stay positive. I appreciate your reply.

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I asked my doctor to prescribe me acamprosate read about it is medication when you use after detox helps your brain come back to normal and do not crave alchohol really helped me o felt like normal person was able to socialise with friend and don’t drink at the same time feeling good
Explain your gp your situation they might be able to give you that I used or for 2 months and had absolutely 0 craving

Let the guilt and shame be your tool. Let it fuel your desire to get sober. Think about it when you want to drink again in the future. There is a place on this app where you can record how you feel and look at it later. Don’t let the guilt be a prisin, though. Try to do something nice for yourself and for someone else, too.

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Remember - why are you here, in a recovery community? Why did you want to stop drinking and why did you make that decision yesterday? If you have another alcoholic drink will it really make you happy? Or will you actually feel disappointed and regretful? Not to mention drunk no doubt - then very sick.
How is your mindset? Are you a drinker or a non-drinker? You need to decide and commit. Make the decision based on self-love and self-respect :heart: set your mind to determined and unstoppable. Set it with the mission of changing your life for the better. Then do things everyday that assist you in getting better and living the life you want!
When thinking of drinking, play the tape all the way through.
Take things one day at a time. Just focus on today. You CAN be sober and not drink today. And tell yourself No. Say NO to the drink that matters - the first drink, then there won’t be a second or a third and so on!
This is make or break now. Believe in yourself. You are a good person. You deserve to feel joy and happiness. You don’t need to drink. You are here because you matter. you have worth.
I wish you all the best on your recovery journey :blush:

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