Support from partners

Hi there and welcome!! I am just popping in quickly…our furniture finally arrives today after a month!! I just wanted to say it can and does take time for our partners to understand, as it is very different for them. It is a learning process for both of us and that is okay. No need to worry about long term, keep your focus on YOU being sober right now. :slightly_smiling_face:

When you are both sober, not hungover and well rested, have some discussions about your decision to go sober from all alcohol. That for you it isn’t a treat, it is a slippery slope that leads to shame, guilt and more. It can take time for your partner to understand this and that is okay.You don’t need to figure it out all at once. It is a process for you both. Tokigirl gives great advice above!!

Over the years there have been quite a few threads around this topic. I have a thread with a few you may find of interest. And please do know we can and do live with partners who still drink…sobriety is not a death sentence to all relationships. Honesty and communication and respect go a long way on both sides. My husband is much more conscious of his drinking now and knowledgeable on recovery than he was when I began this process and yes, he still drinks. Relationships are never perfect, but we certainly can and do have the ability to continue relationships with people who drink.

Here’s the link to threads…and keep reaching out!

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