I am a hypersexual individual. Porn addiction and lust have had a hold on me for years. As of late it’s been particularly worse, and when i ask the “Mental health matters!” people they are disgusted by my hypersexuality. It makes me feel disgusting and wrong. Sex had always been normalized how i grew up. I thought sex was how you made people love you back. I also have issues controlling my tongue when it comes to
sexual comments. I’m in need of some support. And maybe some ways to avoid Pornography and masturbation.
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A celebrate recovery group might be a great help for you, idk where u at, but in my State we have several.
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Hi Logan,
I do not know much about this kind of addiction, but many here do and will reply when they are awake. I share a tread here who is interesting for you, check it out!
All the best, Claudia 
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Thank you so much! This helped a lot. I really understood and could resonate with that post and I feel less alone on the topic. Its hard finding people who will be up foward with the topic. Thank you!!
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I actually was in a treatment center this summer with a person that has a sex addiction. They shared a lot about their issues. I could not help you one way or another but if it’s ok I can maybe ask my old housemate to reach out to you and offer their advice?
Hi Logan, you are not alone. Hypersexuality and related conditions including sexaholism, sex addiction, and sex/love addiction (there are a range of different labels, and there is overlap) are actually relatively common, but because there is a lot of stigma and shame associated with acknowledging it and seeking recovery, many people hide it.
If you categorize your condition as one which you cannot control, where you use it as a key way to self-soothe or otherwise modify your mood or state of mind, and/or as a condition where you lose your power of choice, then it sounds like reaching out for some support would help.
One of my favourite researchers, writers, and counsellors on this topic is Patrick Carnes. His spouse Stephanie Carnes is a researcher and counsellor too, and between the two of them they have helped thousands of people to better understand and live with their sexual selves in a constructive, healthy way. If you search “Patrick Carnes sex addiction” online you will find lots of material. He has a lot of talks on YouTube too.
I categorize myself as a “sexaholic”, which I understand as a person (me) who is addicted to the lust, the chase, the thrill, the forbidden. My history of sexaholism has created significant problems for me at home and at work, and it’s only by working my way through my recovery that I am feeling like I’m getting more stable and sane.
Your path will be your own path, but most important of all is to know that you are not alone. Hundreds of thousands of people (of all genders) grapple with the same or very similar things. I joined a sex addiction recovery clinic in my city, and at that clinic I was able to participate in groups that helped me, and to learn, and I met the counsellor I still have counselling with today. I found this clinic by searching “sex addiction clinic” and it was in the results. “Sex addiction recovery” is a helpful term too. Explore different searches and you’ll find some answers.