So @SoulSearcher. I think there we have it. the tears of anger. it sound like you feel overwhelmed for a long time. to long to much pressure. This is what I experience myself. I fell out with burnout 3 years ago but never had 1 single day since that i had no expectations to deal with. hospitals, therapy, more hospitals, moving to get better health, doing consturction on my new house, getting lyme and so on and so on.
with you it feels the same.
last week i was talkin to someone I know from when i was young and we were training horses. She said, what would you do with the horse when it was so constantly overwhelmed stressed and angry.? Then I would take all the pressure of so it could come back to itself, relax the nervous system and then decide for itself when to move again. move from trustā¦ and then you can grow.
I feel that is what we need. all pressure of so we can feel how and when we can move again by ourselves and not in reaction to evereything that has to be done.
sounds simple but human lifes and all the obligations are not that simple you can just drop everything
So now we are angry togetherā¦ and it helps me that I am not alone in this.
@SoulSearcher
Iām sending over a blanket, a cup of tea, your favorite food, a life size picture of Jason Momoa, scented candles, a big box of tissues, soda sand a punching bag
Hey! Emotions are real, a part of who we are and tend to give us something to explore within ourselves. Have you heard of the 5 Whyās process? If you can sit with that anger, and ask yourself why you are experiencing it (because I want to drink), then ask and (and I know itās not a good choice for me), then go back to whyā¦ Follow that kind of a reflective process 5 times and you might find some little nuggets of information that can help you move forward!
I like that. I havenāt tried it before. I have to be out the door in a minute but when I have a moment of quiet later Iāll ponder this. Thank you for the suggestion
I think it was like, OK, done with work, go home and start the usual routine. But, I need to learnā¦ Coming home and staying sober thatās the new routine.
Good revelation! So, coming home, staying sober, but by doing what? Thatās whatās been helping me. Thinking about how to fill the hole that used to be my drinking routines. Hobbies, reading, tv, etc.
You guys are ALL so AMAZING!! Iām sorry, I donāt contribute much. Iām so busy with work. Yikes. I do read everyoneās posts though and am grateful to be a part of this awesome group!! Oh, my book arrived today!!
Let me tell you ladies, this is one wild ride. Last night and most of this morning I was SO angry. The rest of the day, perfectly pleasant. This evening, enjoying a completely routine dinner, bath, bed time with the kiddos and have barely even thought about having a drink. What in the world?!
Itās been a rollercoaster for me too. It starts about 1 hour before I get off work. All I can think about is grabbing a bottle of wine on my way home. Itās sooooo hard to just keep on goingā¦ wine makes the chaos of home when I open the door so much easier. Lately I have been sitting in my car for 5-10 min in the driveway just thinking about how much I donāt want to go in. Lol
Iāve been trying hot teaā¦ kava tea in factā¦ as a ārelaxā replacement for my wine.
, and Tuesday and Wednesday are my days offā¦
