No preasure… Make me smile.
What a beautiful photo NAT
That’s my preference too. Not make a big fuss. Used to go to parties when I was younger and they were fun but full of booze. No one I know has parties anymore so we just stay home like the old people we are. 
It’s just another day to me.
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You see, once again there is that whole expectation verses reality thing going on with nye!
It’s expected of us to celebrate the new year doing what we see in films and TV. All this does is line big corporations pockets because we go and buy loads of booze and fireworks and food, pay for new clothes and dinners etc etc etc.
And, because we were buying into that for years we did not see that there is a whole section of society that don’t do this because they choose not to.
Now it’s our turn to choose not to and not care what other people do.
That’s up to them, our choice is to stay at home and do our thing, without feeling that we are missing out on anything. Because seriously, what are we missing out on? Nothing as far as I can see.
This all ties into the changing of our mindsets.
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Very well said @anon12657779! I’m choosing to stay home and do nothing. I’m gonna try to stay up to watch the ball drop on TV but if I don’t then I’m ok with that too.
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I will be in bed by 9pm on NYE. I’ll see my way out now.
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Completely agree with this. Ever since my son was born, 17 years ago, i gave up on the hype of having to have a big celebration for New Years. Now I just spend the night with my kids and whatever family members that want to come over. Much more enjoyable for me.
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My youngest has taken to wanting to see the fireworks on TV. But usually I’m asleep quite early and she has to wake me up. Even last year when I was sober.
Big difference to 20 years ago when we went to London to see the fireworks and then ended up in a massive warehouse party somewhere on the way home.
Oh how times change.
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Looking yummy as usual!
Good. Taking my daughter to see a xmas light display tonight. I promised her we’d go before xmas but got too busy so better late than never.
I told her i will never break promises again now that I’m sober and now i gotta follow through.
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How you doing?
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I did relax all day which is a treat for me. 
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Ahh the warehouse party, I’m still sure that was Greenford if you were round Uxbridge way in 2000, I like to think it was anyway because it’s really weird to think I was there (drunk 
) with some random bloke from far away that I’d get sober with 19 years later!
This year it will be amazing if I stay awake!
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Nope. I’m gonna have cake tomorrow for my daughter’s birthday. I should have though. I guess i can’t have too much cake.
Maybe we’ll have a treat when we go see the lights.
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Have a good night rest. Talk to ya tomorrow.
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Who knows Shell. May well have been. We could have walked past each other!🙋
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you guys still rockin, I should have known. I’m not ignoring you BTW. tried to sleep but too angry and upset.
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Oh dear, things not got any better then?
I just can’t sleep, some of the things she said to me today make me think what’s the point. I go through hell trying to become a better person and I’m sharing it with someone who couldn’t give a shit really. She does everything that she moans at me for doing. like tonight she had already said I sit on my phone all night or put my headphones on to listen to music and says she can’t talk to me… So I didn’t do any of this and then she sits on her phone all night while I watch Netflix on the tablet without headphones and still ignores me. But it’s the trust thing, did you read my post about how does she know that when I go to AA we aren’t just a load of gang bangers. OMG.
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Yes I read that, that is a bit of a way out comment. The trust issue is hers though and after the length of time you guys have been together if she’s never had any reason to mistrust you then that’s very unfair. I think that our partners are scared of the change and it brings out their own insecurities, in fact I know they are because I’ve had that exact conversation with Lee, he told me I don’t know who you are anymore, what you like or even if you like me without the drink, it all came out of nowhere but he’d obviously been thinking it.
As for the ‘just have one’ comment Lee told me today I’d been snappy lately and he’s right, I told him I found Christmas Day with him and my mum waffling on about how great their different flavoured gins were and telling me to smell it was a bit much. His comment was ‘if you wanted it why didn’t you just have one, that would be ok just don’t go mad’ seriously it’s been over a year! They will never get it. I tried to explain I didn’t want to drink it but the behaviour still irritated me because it was inconsiderate, his answer in so many words was ‘ it’s been a year I thought you were over all that’
Trust me you really aren’t alone here, only ‘us’ get ‘us’
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