Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this.
I can relate in some way, although I am not much of a liar (I get too stressed remembering the details and my face just shows it all). However, I am a huge people pleaser and in a way that’s not so much different from what you are saying. I always thought there’s not much harm in it, because I was mainly trying to make everyone feel good about themselves and that’s not such a bad thing, right? Although I realized of course it’s not in the best of my own interest to handle situations that way, at least morally I felt on the high ground. But then I came across this post here and it really shuffled something in my head.
I think lying, half-truths and people pleasing as a “well intended” lie of sorts are really just ways to avoid taking responsibility for our own actions and ultimately for ourselves. I am grateful for this moment of ego check. It gave my process of healing a huge push forward. Keep working you recovery - you’ll be surprised where it may take you. 