My newly pregnant wife threatened to keep me from my family because of my drinking . So that’s my reason to stop . I’m not violent, I don’t drink till I black out . I guess I just binge drink. But none the less I’ll stop drinking I don’t think it’ll be hard . only going on 3 days at this point so yeah. Looking for other people going through a sobriety journey ! Advice
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Welcome to the community…
What’s so funny
Welcome. 
For many of us (including myself), it was very hard to quit. We arrived at this app after many years or even decades of trying to quit, failing, negotiating with ourself, blaming ourself, etc. I do hope quitting is easy for you. Have you tried before? What brought you to this app?
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I have tried before and I usually make it to a couple months and go back to it . I don’t plan on doing that this time. I came to this app because I needed to find other people who are going through the same journey I guess an alternative to therapy or AA
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So it is already proving to be at least a bit hard to quit, right? If you haven’t achieved sobriety straightaway? Accepting that you are having difficulty and you need help to quit is the first step. And you have done that if you have joined here. It can be a bit of a blow to the ego to realise this. That others can drink normally and I can’t. I know I struggled with that a lot.
If therapy and peer support seem a bit strong for you yet, have you tried reading any books about sobriety? Or watching podcasts? Making an effort to read or listen to something regularly can help to focus on the process and be a promise to yourself that you are doing things differently this time.
There are plenty of resources here
Resources for our recovery
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I’m definitely going to look into the podcasts . I’ve always said since I don’t get violent or black out or really don’t have bad occurrences with drinking then I must not have a problem but I realize I do because I would drink daily . My wife is really worried and I can’t have her really stressing too much with her being pregnant
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This app seems like I’ll get a lot of peer support and I can actually track my progress. I appreciate you reaching out
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Welcome! This place is great and has been a huge help to me and hope it is for you, too! I would say that if your wife is so worried about your drinking that she’s threatened to keep you from your family…there’s something else going on and your drinking is more of a problem than you percive it to be. I have no idea, obviously, but it’s worth thinking about and perhaps talking about, here or somewhere else. (I speak from experience on this one….my drinking “wasn’t a problem” but that’s not how the people who love me felt.)
I’m so glad you’re here and taking steps to make sure your baby (congratulations!!!) has a safe, loving, present family. 
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Thank you so much I’m determined to get myself together! And use this community to help me out. Just needed to speak with people who understand where I come from but I know I have to do better . Always trying!
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Welcome to TS 
. My favorite podcast was the Shair podcast. I started with the earliest episodes and listened to almost all of them. I use to walk miles and listen. It was actually quite wonderful. Best wishes on your sobriety journey and fatherhood.
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Thank you! Can you give the link for it so I can check it out?
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I listened on Spotify, youtube whatever streaming service you have. The link is above though.
I did not pay anything when I listened. They were all free, hopefully still are.
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I just nap. I go to bed early.
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I’m having an extremely hard time sleeping . I usually lay up until my body just makes me go to sleep and also my appetite is like… gone . I hardly want to eat 
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Oh checkout recovery elevator awesome podcast!
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The changes the body and mind goes through when becoming sober is an experience on its own.
Dreams feel real, the mind can race, obsession can develop and mood swings can show up. These are all normal because the brain is fighting for what its use to. The body and brain loves consistency.
The more I learned about PAWS, the more I quicker I was able to overcome the negative aspects of the change and enjoy all the good that comes with it.
You have the opportunity to be a sober dad, embrace it!
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Hi there! I am also a binge drinker and find myself frequently thinking “I don’t need to drink today” buttttt then the weekend will come and that’s when it starts to get hard.
I’m only day 3 and so far I’m feeling pretty good. Granted I’m starting slow with a 30 day goal as to not scare myself with a giant commitment. I know I’ll feel okay until the one day of the week comes when I usually drink and that day I KNOW will be tough. Old habits die hard. Hoping to find something to go do with my kids that day.
You are here and sober and sometimes that just has to be enough.
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Day 3 is great, good for you! Don’t worry about day 30 or even day 4. Today is all that counts!
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Quitting drinking to me is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to encounter. It’s not funny at all, please don’t feel offended, but it’s not gonna be easy. I guess that’s what he’s trying to say.
It takes a lot of work, commitment and self reflection to get sober. I’m still working on it, and I’ve been on this forum for a while now! Wishing you the best on this new journey! Stay connected with us! 
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