I just blocked someone a couple days ago for sending me DMs not pertaining to staying sober or anything to do with this forum.
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Did you let the mods know? Thereās been a creeper around lately
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No, I will now.
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Shit yāall caught me
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I knew you were to good to be true 
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I hope the creeper hits me up, it will be the one and only time 
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I personally disagree with this, but I think the issue on the forum being discussed here is more around receiving unsolicited messages.
Definitely agree that as a community we should all keep each other safe and that it shouldnāt be about pointing the finger at all men. What it is about is the fact that this is not a dating site.
Feels like a good time to say again that people can and should report any behaviour that makes them feel uncomfortable or unsafe, regardless of gender or sexuality, by sending a message to @moderators.
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Oh of course, itās not about stopping messages, more that if people receive one that they feel uncomfortable about that they can and should let us (moderators) know. We will only take action based on the information we have available and discuss any grey areas as a team to try and get the balance right. I think we generally do, glad you do too! 
And yes youāre right the issue is with inappropriate unsolicited messages. While I donāt think people should have to make their profile private for that reason, it doesnāt actually stop them being able to receive messages (you can open a new message and type @username in the to: box)
There certainly are rules, they are pinned on top of the web version of the forum (I think) but the app works differently.
They are here, for reference for anyone reading this who hasnāt seen them 
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You can still message people directly even if their profile is set to private.
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Very big thank you. As lonely as i feel sometimes, and i hate that iām single, i also know i need to work on myself before in able to feel any value in a relationship. Being hit on is a HUGE trigger for me and even when itās done by a kind hearted person with nothing but good intentions for me, it sets me back mentally many steps and gives me flashbacks to what caused my situation to begin with (long story about my ex of 15yrs and my sons father). Iām nowhere near strong enough to deal with it right now, and i fight loneliness every day simply because i know having this strength in myself is more important. I want this place to be safe. I love it so far and a big big thank you to those that are fighting to keep it safe. I love having new friends and anybody can hit me up! In fact, pleaseeee do!!! But donāt step over that line right now. Iāll cherish you a lot more if you donāt, ya knowā¦
I pray for everyone here! Keep up the good fight! Strength in numbers!
Much love!
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I fully agree
It actually is pinned, but it gets unpinned automatically quite easily. I think it only takes one read or even scan through the thread for that to happen. To make it āstickierā, weād likely have to make it stay at the top for everyone permanently, which is an inconvenience thatās not clear if itās worthwhile.
I wouldnāt be surprised if new members also hear about it in an automated message when they sign up.
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Since the bump got purged in the crash of 2021 Iām sending it back to the top.
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I donāt know why Iām the only girl that never gets hit on. Itās obvious from my profile pic that Iām extremely hot.
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Me neither! Itās weird.
Edit: I meant I donāt get any attention, whether wanted or unwanted, LOL
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And I have no idea why I have gotten so many inappropriate PMsā¦Iām not hot. My guess is I seem too nice. Vulnerable. Fuckin bullshit.
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Same here 
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Donāt be sorry. Sentiment shared over here
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I can start 
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I was hoping the crash purged all my old DMs, no such luck 
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