If you drank and drugged like I did you have probably ruined more than a few holidays. You’ll probably ruin another if you decide to drink again. Stay sober and stop ruining shit.
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It’s not my fault they all wouldn’t stop nagging me with trivial things like:
- stop scaring the children you drunk clown
- lift your face out of the soup you nodding off knob
- leave the cash in the childrens’ cards alone - it’s not yours to take
- stop threatening to kill everyone you wound up wanker
- clean up your spew
- etc.
So you can see how it’s their fault really, not mine.
Selfish bastards
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I can overthink anything . I can even overthink a peanut butter sandwich. In fact there’s a thread somewhere on this forum where I do just that.
But one thing I don’t overthink is my sobriety. Some advice I got early on was “don’t think, don’t drink, and go to meetings”.
I’ve successfully followed that advice for over 8 years. Thank you Marty.
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At a certain point in my sobriety I could no longer blame my disease for the problems in my life, nor could I blame others for my feelings. My circumstances were entirely within my control. It was up to me to change my thoughts, my feelings, and my actions.
When I was in active addiction it was easy to sit in my mess without the ability to change, so that’s what I did. My alcoholism was my excuse for being miserable. But with my sobriety came the ability, and more importantly the responsibility, to change.
If you have some sober time you have the tools to not be stuck. You owe it to everyone to do better. What’s the point of sobriety if you just remain miserable.
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Just remember that, as you complain about the same problems every day, there are probably millions of people who would kill to be in your shoes. Most of you have been given the greatest gift in your life by being sober, and in what way are you being grateful about that. That’s why they say gratitude is an action word. You have to show it, not just say it.
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I Am grateful. 
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You don’t have to co-sign every piece of bullshit that comes across your desk. Not every feeling needs to be validated. How can anyone be expected to grow in an echo chamber. Support does not mean unconditional validation. Sometimes poor decisions need to be pointed out so that people don’t stay stuck in the same mindset that has caused them so many problems in the first place.
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100% agree! My old sponsor was the one person who could call me on bs lol She knew me better than I knew myself lol
But unconditional validation can be actually very detrimental and even dangerous for someone. When people used to agree and validate my poor choices, it just caused me to continue acting on those poor choices. I needed tough love (in a respectful way) to show me where I may be steering in the wrong direction
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Can you imagine if people gave me unconditional validation 
. Early on I had people like @SassyRocks @DowntroddenGoat @Forged @CaptAZ and @Yoda-Stevie to remind me that I was in fact, an idiot. Usually I didn’t listen, but at least they tried
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Ssshhh everyone, my show is on.
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All the people on here and in real life that I hated or annoyed me early on in my recovery are now the ones that I’d rather talk to or get advice and run something by. Still sometimes I don’t want to hear the stuff I need to hear but it’s extremely important. And now look all those so called assholes from the beginning of my recovery are still sober and kicking ass. I don’t put anyone on a pedestal and we are all human. For myself though sometimes it’s good for my feelings to be bothered. It’s good for me to hear something I need to hear. Not what I want to hear.
PS: hated might be the wrong word but you get the picture or what I’m trying to say
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Thanks for the chuckle!! We had some times for sure. I know I certainly have learned a lot from so many people here over the many years…and this continues still!
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I never said you were an idiot. I said you had the gnarliest feet I’d ever seen, and the pictures you posted of them gave me nightmares.
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Yeahhhh, but you were thinking it 
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You could market your pics as a cure for a foot fetish.
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Never underestimate what someone could fetishise.
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If yall want to be cheeky using gifs do it on a playful thread 
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Ok , you’re right.
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Look at this newcomer stirring up shit.
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