If one is going to be sober, they should learn to spell sober. S-O-B-E-R. Yes, I know English is a second language for some, but “Sobre” is only found in Spanish, as far as I can tell…and it is used to describe location, as in “Mi gato es sobre a la Mesa. Gato travieso.” (My cat is on the table. Naughty cat.)
End of nitpicky rant.
I’ll just eat bananas. I hear you can get pretty turnt up on them.
That post was a result of an off-TS discussion I had earlier today
Autocorrect man. I get hosed by it all the time. The thing is, I can spell correctly, I just can’t be bothered to read before I click send!! 
And sometimes I do get autocorrected to something French. It’s my own fault for putting a French keyboard on my phone. But it is easier than trying to find accents.
You aren’t an habitual offender of this teethgrinding peeve.
But I understand. I want to throw my phone every time I read “alot”. 
I feel the same about lose vs. loose
People don’t like to hear certain things. They don’t like hearing that they are powerless over alcohol. They don’t like hearing that you can’t just drink once in a while. They don’t like hearing that it takes a while for the mind and body to recover.
If one drank a lot, it takes a lot to recover. The body, mind and spirit have to adjust.
It sounds horrible, but a buddy once said it only gets better. It isn’t horrible, you getting better and better…
There is no room for relaspe in recovery, but recovery can begin again with relaspe, all is not lost. It is just a new beginning.
I feel the same alot of the time
Whatever you put before your sobriety you are going to lose.
Don’t have time for SMART because of a job? Can’t go to rehab because of your family? “Can’t” miss that concert…
Well you will lose all of those things then getting in to recovery will be pretty easy because you’ll have nothing left to worry about. Worked pretty well for me. All I had to do was lose my job, my girlfriend, my apartment, my friends and my family. Once they were all gone it was pretty easy to focus on recovery.
Step one is truth.
Thankyou for sharing the just 4 today . I love the daily readings x
I also read the codependent reading. That’s always a good one too . X
JUST FOR TODAY
Just for today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life problems at once. I can do something for 12hrs that would appal me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.
Just for today I will be happy. Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.
Just for today I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my “luck” as it comes, and fit myself to it.
Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind, I will study. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.
Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways : I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out, if anybody knows of it, it will not count. I will do at least 2 things I don’t want to do - just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt, they may be hurt, but today I will not show it.
Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, talk low, act courteously, criticise not one bit, not find fault with anything and not try to improve or regulate anybody except myself.
Just for today I will have a programme. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. I will save myself from two pests : hurry and indecision.
Just for today I will have a quiet half hour all by myself, and relax. During this half hour, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective of my life.
Just for today I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful, and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.
I think I figured out why I don’t like all the relapse posts. It’s because they are all the same. It’s some woe-is-me take about how the person did something stupid, wound up in a bad situation and ended up using. Then it talks about all the shame and guilt etc.
But rarely does it ever talk about what they are willing to do to stop it from happening again. If you have no defense against a relapse they are going to keep happening. They don’t just magically stop one day.
A friend has been coming to me for about four months that was “inspired” by my story and wanted to stop drinking as she knew she had a problem. Got trashed at her wedding, told her in laws off, hiding bottles, all the good stuff. I gave her countless hours of tips and advice and all she would do is call me having relapsed, how she fucked up or felt like shit. No judgement zone on my behalf towards them but the part I particularly hate about the constant relapse posts and my friend is that the advice given goes in one ear and out the other. The can vent and say how bad they feel and want to change yet don’t take any of your advice. I take it personally and find it at the end of the day to be a waste of breath…figure it out on your own then. 
I get that relapses happen. I just don’t get not making changes after they do.
I sent this to one of my daughters last year, who was doing the same thing to her family, but about a boy…
I replied to someone the other day that had relapsed. Unlike other people I didn’t go the " relapse is part of recovery" rubbish that others were saying. I just said to not be hard on yourself and learn from it.
That person answered the 2 people after me who were all soft and squiggy towards them, totally ignoring me.
Obviously didn’t want to hear what I had to say. Obviously came on for the whole woe is me. looking sympathy not advice.
I mean right, we should show sympathy, of course, mine being don’t be hard on yourself, because we all know that it’s not easy defeating this disease.
As you know @anon12657779 I was a constant ‘re-setter’. Not sure if you know that I have you to thank for really getting to where I am, on day 33. So many others words of wisdom have contributed, but you kick-started a change of mindset, in one single reply post to me.
In that post, you said something about my ego getting in the way. I was quite upset. I didn’t reply to you, or ‘like’ your post. But it played on my mind. Still does. That one post took me on a journey to better understand conscious and unconscious thinking.
I’m doing the 30 day experiment and am now fascinated with Eckhart Tolle and mindfulness.
Anyhoo, just wanted to say that just because a post of yours doesn’t get a response, it doesn’t mean that it hasn’t been heard, leaves a lasting impression, and gets acted on … eventually.
THANK YOU!!! 
