@Yoda-Stevie, this makes me sad, but I completely understand. If this forum wasn’t a promised part of my recovery plan I would have taken quite a few breaks. However, it IS part of my recovery plan. So I read what helps, and a lot of the time it is the ridiculousness. I’m one drink, one xanax, away from that ridiculousness. Keeps me honest and focused on the much better place I’m at now. I pick and choose who I respond to. Most of the time I don’t respond to anything for days.
While you are gone, I will try to keep your message alive. Your message MUST go on.
Fair winds and following seas. You will be missed.
And old timer told me, “all we can do is tell our story. Alcoholics dont like being told what to do. Tell them how you did it, be there for any dialogue that might happen. The rest is between them and God”
My job doesn’t keep me sober, but my sobriety certainly helps me keep my job.
However, I can still use my job as a tool in my sobriety. For those of you who don’t know, I work at a small non-profit whose focus is serving low income clients who have HIV, severe mental illness or substance use disorder. In order to do my job properly I end up spending a lot of time in hospitals and some of the worst neighborhoods in Syracuse. I see how bad things can truly be. I see generational poverty on extreme levels. I’ve seen illness that I did not know existed. I’ve also seen perfectly nice people get continually beat down through no fault of their own. So if I ever get to the point where I start bitching and whining about all the problems in my life all I have to do is go to work and get my ass set straight.
I have a client who was kept having falls. They went to the ER to get checked out and it turns out they have a brain tumor. Then they were doing a routine scan and found some troubling things. They biopsied their kidney and discovered they have cancer. To top it off she has no friends or family who can support her. I’ve been her only visitor. Talk about a bad fucking week. I might need to rethink bitching about someone who is mean to me.
Great post man. Got me thinking. While it’s not really sobriety related it’s one of those I get to’s and gratitude list things.
I was riding home from work and thinking about how tired my legs felt. Then I saw a younger kid in a wheelchair out with his family. At least I assumed his family. Thought that kid would probably be happier than could be described to feel what I was feeling riding.
Then I thought about my wife who is in a bunch of pain from a disc in her neck that’s screwed up. We saw a neurosurgeon who said she should try some therapy and a shot to see if that works before he would do surgery. She was allllll shitty and upset because she can’t get into the pain therapy guy soon enough, which I understand. But, I had to think that we’re fortunate enough to have pretty good insurance to see good doctors, financially stable enough for her to be able to take some time off of work to heal. so while it sucks to be in pain, uncomfortable and not sleeping well. It could be a whole lot worse.
She’s still salty though
@Yoda-Stevie, I did not like you at first, didn’t like your message, your delivery, didn’t like the way looked lol. Then I realized I just didn’t like that I didn’t have the qualities you possess. You’ve been a great role model for me personally, as well as many others. Appreciate you sir. Big salute and see you soon.
You because you have allowed these people to get under your skin, god grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change. You can’t change people places and things so just breath and move on my friend
Lol it happened to me yesterday. Me and my boss both got absolutely shit on at work by the board of directors. They don’t know anything about what we actually do, but still decided to tell us how to do our jobs.
Afterwards I was angry with everyone, but everyone was not the problem lol.
This is why I don’t deal with people when I’m not at work. Work steals all my serenity, acceptance, patience and mood regulation. I don’t have to figure out who is right or wrong if it’s just me and the cats! And the cats are ALWAYS the assholes!
And the shitting on continues today. I have decided that there must be something to what they are saying even if my boss and myself don’t agree. Rather the pout like a child I have decided to follow the new suggested protocol and work even harder than before. Not to boast, but I am exceptionally good at my job and do not feel as if the board of directors should be dictating how I manage my caseload, but I will make the changes suggested. I have a feeling that my client services are going to suffer as a result and need to be prepared for the inevitability that if these changes backfire I will most likely be held responsible for that as well.
In the meantime I am going to accept those things that I cannot change and start focusing on what I can change. If I am not happy with how my employer is acting then it is up to me to find different employment if that drastic measure becomes necessary. I think it may be time to dust off the ole law license and get it active again. I have a standing offer from my old firm to return to my old position if I want.
Determination without action isn’t really determination. If you were so determined you would actually put in the work. Saying you are determined and actually being determined are two very different things it appears.
Sorry, coming to this very late. Thank you for your wise words in the short time I’ve been here. You said
“Sober is better. Be better”
Those words are very powerful and I have repeated them to myself more than once.
Also - very curious about the turmeric thing. How do you take it? Does it come as a supplement? (Sorry, yes I know I can probably just look it up. Wanted to know from someone who actually takes it)
Hope you have a good break Yoda -Stevie and your journey in sobriety is a fruitful one, as for me i was asked a while back why i came on here as im decades sober ,well i guy i was sponsoring told me about it and i came on just to give it the once over and i liked some of the stuff here , i bite my tongue regular i just want everyone to live a sober life like i have since sept 1986 , i try to keep it simple no big explaining things , meetings make it easier and i do really wish everyone well , just imagine no mobile phones no internet no blogs no u tube no books no detox so what would you . for me meetings was the only answer i think today everyone has a different way to stay sober and to many celebs getting in on the act making easy money , for the people who go to meetings and people who find sobriety not going to meetings i wish you well keep on trucking
I got sober in 2017. I tried pretty much all those newfangled things you mentioned to get sober. None of them worked on their own. The one thing that did work for me was AA. I kept doing a lot of those other things, but AA was the main ingredient in my recovery. There’s a reason it has millions of members world-wide and has been an instrumental in people’s recovery’s since the 1930’s. It works. Plain and simple. Chapter 5 lays it all out in easy to understand format. If you can be honest with yourself and others than your chance at long term sobriety is pretty damn high. If you aren’t willing to follow suggestions then it’s on you.
