“I’m back and feeling better than ever. I definitely got it this time?”
“So what are you doing different this time?”
“Well, nothing, but I’m determined!”
“You weren’t determined before your last 12 relapses?”
“No, I was, but this is different”
“Ahh, ok. You keep trying to pull open the door that says push and let me know how that goes”
When it comes to sobriety people really confuse the word “can’t” for “won’t”.
Can’t implies that you have a valid reason for not being able to do something. Like, “I can’t go to the moon because I’m not a fuckin astronaut”. Won’t simply implies that just aren’t willing to do something. Basically won’t=excuse. Stop confusing can’t for won’t.
Incorrect: I can’t go to meetings/rehab/counseling because insert lame ass excuse
Correct: I won’t go to meetings/rehab/counseling because insert lame ass excuse
“Hey, I’m new here, and super motivated to get sober. My marriage and finances are a wreck, I may lose my job, I just got my 2nd DUI, and my dog won’t come out from under the bed. I’m gonna beat this thing.”
Stats read “Joined June 25. Last post June 26. Read time 1 hour. Topics 0. Replies 1”
This makes me sad.
Sobriety for me is like having a wolf by the ears. As long as I hold on tight and exert myself, I won’t get bitten. Ease up for a moment, get complacent, or losen my grip, my addiction will go right for my throat.
If you can go grocery shopping then you can get sober. Grocery shopping requires a certain level of peopling so we overcome our social anxiety. It requires patience and tolerance for the obvious reasons of MFers with carts running in to you. It’s something we all have to do, even if we don’t really want to. And we deal with temptation while there.
In sobriety you are going to need to people just a little bit. Tolerance and patience are spiritual principles. For most of us we need to put in the work to get sober, even if we don’t want to. And in early sobriety each day is like passing the beer aisle. But we still survive.
Only problem I see with that is that he eats cake
“Hey kids, blow out the candles on your birthday pie.”
It works.
Pie, Brownies, cookies, crack. Literally anything but cake
I just walked down the beer isle yesterday while I was grocery shopping (couldnt avoid it, all the dairy was on the other side and coffee creamer was a must…) apparently theres a strawberry lemonade flavored Natural Light now 
so glad I got outta the game before I ruined strawberry lemonade for myself
My kids wouldn’t be mad with a giant cookie, a giant brownie, a giant cheesecake or even a pizza.
Let the people with kids, worry about kid’s birthdays lol. Stay in your lane. 
I saw that recently and said to myself, Even on my worst days, even I wouldn’t drink that.
Then I said to myself, Liar.
I just saw that shit at the fair. I thought what in the white trash hell is this.
It’s all aimed at the kids. About 20 years ago over here, there was a big thing marketing alcopops.
Basically ready mixed spirits and juices.
Keep telling yourself that bud.
Now hard seltzer too. So I guess Lacroix is now “NA Seltzer” and the whole equilibrium of the regular “What’s Your Opinion On NA Beer and Wine?” debate has been upset, because we want booze in everything.
Which is why it makes me sad. So many who have that motivation to try to right their lives, but can’t manage to stay here for more than a day, read for more than an hour. It makes me sad because in all likelihood they went right back to their DOC.
I agree with this to some extent , but sometimes we just cant do things because they are out of our control, take me I would go aa every day if I could however my wife does not understand and has no interest in addiction or the process of recovery and has made my attempts to go there on a regular basis real grief ( using my past behaviours against me and the usual bollox of you will meet someone there )…so it’s a matter of choice ,my recovery is the most important thing to me and rather than put myself in a position where I may relapse I have now chose not to go to aa ( while I hate not going ,i know it wont be forever) ,but instead found alternative means of help through apps and forums like this…the problems we face as recovering addicts or recovering alcoholics are never simple ones ,but recovery is teaching me how to deal with these challenges I face …one day at a time
Like I said. A can’t statement is a valid excuse. I’d love to hit AA everyday, but I can’t because I am a father and husband and part of my recovery is being present for my family. But I still get to 3-5 meetings a week.
I totally agree with this statement. I wrote a post a while ago outlining what I’ve done for my recover without AA and about how it probably would have been easier, and definatly a LOT cheaper, had I stumbled into AA instead of the path I stumbled onto. I have zero regrets about how my recovery has gone, and I’m very happy with it, but it’s definatly a different, more expensive and harder way. However, I’ve never taken the easier route! 
