Reset on Monday. Giving myself a really hard time over it to the point I didn’t have the best sleep and my shoulders feel like stone wondering why I can’t just be “normal”.
Had a toxic 10 year relationship which I left 7 years ago and have been on my own raising my children ever since. As the boys and I get older I get quite lonely in the evenings…that’s when the cravings for a drink usually arise.
I need to give myself more credit. I have booked a holiday for us to turkey next week so should be feeling excited but I’m just not today.
I’m hoping going to work and booking a gym session will drag me out of this hole and perhaps by the end of the day I can write a positive update 
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We have to learn how to cope with problems… as an addict, I can tell you that I look for the easy way to deal with problems… it takes me a week to get on track by working out and doing positive and productive things, but a beer and a bump fixes anything instantly, but that’s not the right way, we trying to extinguish a fire with gasoline 
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Maybe try a meeting might help wish you well
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For me distraction helps most of the time, venting too and you did both 
Keeping myself busy and tired helps. So I do hope that you come back with a positive update, please let us know!
And if not, tomorrow there is a brand new day and maybe that’s a better one! 
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I feel for you. I’m kind of in a funk too. I’ve been divorced/single for almost 7 years. I haven’t been in the gym lately, which helps, but been feeling flat. Coming on here helps. I’m glad you posted what you posted, it reminds me I’m not alone in this struggle. Thank you for that! You helped me today!
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Home from work still feeling a little off but wondering if it’s because I’m day 6 of not smoking and maybe it’s the detoxing of that?
Cancelled the gym but I have got a nice dinner to cook then will go for a walk with my youngest. Hot bubble bath and an early night then I can tick another day as a goal x
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I’m glad it helped! It is so important to not feel like the only one which I do in my circle of friends and family. They don’t understand and just think “why can’t you just stop”……if only it was that easy!!!
Going to try and get into a zoom chat group as they do help
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The thing i miss in my life is having someone to just give a hug and say everything will be ok. I am the one who has to be strong with no one to lean on 
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You just explained the exact feeling I’ve been carrying for years!
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Very lonely feeling
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Hold yout head high
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It is. My kids know I’m lonely. They keep saying I need a girlfriend lol! I miss them too when it’s not my weekend.
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Thank you I’m trying xx
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Praying for you!
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Sounds like a good (enough) day to me
I have never smoked, but I know quitting is hard from what I’ve been told. Congratulations with you’re smoke fee days!
And ps, just got home from a holiday in Turkey and had a great time! I traveled around and seen a lot. I hope you will have a lovely time as well!
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Hiya Hayley, Day 6 of not smoking ! That is something to be proud of. As is raising your children, going to work, going on holiday your going great guns. Enjoy your dinner your walk and when your in your bath just take a minute to think how brilliant you are. 
we all have good days and bad days regardless of our addictions. Best wishes.
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That’s gave me a tear in my eye thank you!
I am proud of myself the only let down is when I grab that wine and almost destroy everything I work hard for! I honestly lose control and one day I fear the worst will happen!
But I’m determined to change that x
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I’m glad you had a great time! I can’t wait ti get on the plane and then I can switch off for 7 days 
Have some time to really reflect x
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Oh wow, Turkey!! How marvelous. Will be fun not to spend it dehydrated and hungover!!
Life can be lonely for sure. Meetings, zoom or in person are a great way to have some interaction…same with hanging out here. The light is always on, as we are from all over the world. 
And yes, in early days of sobriety and nicotine withdrawal, all those feelings the drugs and or alcohol were repressing are going to want releasing. This is where activity…walking, fitness class, dancing, bicycling, etc can assist…as well as crying and screaming…both a great outlet! And journaling…write it out to get it out. At least they all helped me. And so did learning to quiet that mind of mine…guided meditations help me calm my self.
Learning new ways to self soothe is key. So glad you are here!
And normal drinking…well, I don’t know much about it. I do know about blackouts, hangovers, bad decisions, shame, guilt and depression tho…I don’t want any part of that anymore.
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